Tips On How To Know If You Are Ready For A New Relationship

Tips On How To Know If You Are Ready For A New Relationship
So you ended a marriage or a relationship and you’ve started to get adjusted to your new single life.  So, how do you know if you are ready for a new relationship?

Since we go to relationships to give and share, in order to be able to do so with someone new and have every chance of it working out, here are some tips to help you.

How To Know If You Are Ready For A New Relationship:

Healing Process:

Have you given yourself time to properly heal? What I mean is that you need to just really allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you may have buried deep inside to not feel.

You need to walk through the pain, anger, sadness or whatever it is that you are feeling. You don’t have to stay there and I wouldn’t suggest that you do, but you do need to definitely feel it, embrace it and then let it go. There may be some steps that you may have to do to let it go depending on whatever it is.

It may take some time to do so. Sometimes writing in a journal can really help you because it shows you as time goes on just how far you have come and just how far that you have to go.

I know someone who went through a divorce and created a blog under a pen name. Everyday for 180 days she wrote a post. This was very healing for her.

Forgiveness:

This is a BIGGIE! Ask yourself if you need to forgive not only yourself but the other person involved. Sometimes after we get out of a relationship, we have regrets that we wish we had done this or that, etc. Other times, it could be that we stayed in that particular relationship too long and are wondering what were we thinking.

In any case, we must forgive ourselves. Ask yourself, “With whatever knowledge I had at the time that I had made that particular decision, did I believe it to be true?” “Did I know any different?” Sometimes we are told certain things that we really wanted to happen and believed it would and then much to our disappointment, it never did.

After answering these questions honestly, you will start to understand that you did the very best with whatever was going on at the time. It’s now time to forgive yourself!

The next step is that you may have to forgive the other person that you were in the relationship, marriage, etc. If this is the case, you are going to really like how I am going to suggest that you do this!

If you are not ready to personally forgive them, you can do a little exercise when you are alone that can really help. Pretend like they are sitting next to you and tell them whatever you need to get it all out and then just say to yourself, “I forgive you. I wish you the very best.” I caution you though to not hold on to any anger when you are saying to yourself whatever you would say to them, you need to release it after that.

At some point in time, you may want to tell the other person that you have forgiven them. But until that time that you are ready to do so, it is something that you want to do for yourself. It allows you to heal and to grow.

Know Your Must Haves:

You must get very clear on what kind of a partner that you want in the future. Write down what are the qualities that they absolutely must have or else later on, this could possibly be a deal breaker. If you absolutely want to have children, then make sure that your potential partner can even have them or that they even want to some day.  Make sure that you get really clear on what you want before the stars & rockets go shooting off and you find that you are back in the same kind of relationship that you may have just left.

When you are very clear even before you are in a relationship, the chances of you attracting the person with those are great. Now there may be some ‘Must Haves’ that aren’t a deal breaker and that they are at the bottom of your list. If someone has the majority of them, then you can easily coach them to have one or two of the less important ones later on, if they feel that they are important as well. Someone may not seem to have all of your ‘Must Haves’ in the beginning of your relationship, but a lot of times, people grow as the relationship does. Just make sure your ABSOLUTE MUSTS are there as you get to know them better and the relationship starts to really grow.

You deserve to have an Extraordinary life! Don’t settle and look for someone just because you might be lonely. “If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.” ~ Maxwell Maltz.

Life is meant to be lived passionately and on purpose! The first step in doing so is to really embrace who you are. Tap into and love the Magnificent person that you truly are and really SHINE! I am rooting for You!!

 


 

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Do You Appreciate Your Loved Ones?

 

 


You might be thinking yes, I really do appreciate my loved ones. My question to you is, “Do they really know how much that you appreciate them?” There is a huge difference. Appreciating your loved ones, but not showing or telling them on a consistent basis is like buying  a gift for someone and never giving it to them.

By letting your loved ones know just how much that you appreciate them, will put them in a place that they will want to continue doing all the things that they are doing to keep having that great feeling of being appreciated.

You know yourself when you feel appreciated, you want to do more of what you were doing to have the other person in the relationship to continue telling you just how much you mean to them and how they appreciate you.

My mother passed away three years ago this past August, but about  a year and a half before she died I had started to email her and tell her just how much she meant to me. I remember in one email I asked for her forgiveness on something I did to upset her years before, even though I had apologized when it happened. Since she lived over 850 miles away, I started to call her more often  and really started to enjoy our talks and laughs, even more so.

Then on July 16, 2009 I received a call from my sister that my beautiful momma had leukemia. I was thinking that she may have a year, but when we flew in to see her the next day, I found out she had about 6 months. My husband and I ended up staying for two weeks and since the doctor had said that she was responding to the chemo, we went home and were going to come back for her next chemo treatment.

During our trip, I would take my beautiful momma to the grocery store and do anything else that she wanted. That time I spent with her was so precious. I remember sitting next to her as she had chemo and looking at her big beautiful blue eyes and seeing the fear in them and was so grateful to be able to be with her.

About a week after we got home from our trip, I received yet another phone call from my sister telling me that my mom had  to be admitted to the hospital as it was either the leukemia getting worse or that it could be pneumonia. I was at the hairdressers and I immediately jumped on my computer and booked a flight for later that day. I am so happy and grateful that I had the insight to do so without hesitation.

The next day, the doctor came in around 1:00 pm and told her and I that it was the leukemia and that she did not have much time. Looking down at her while the doctor was talking to us, I realized just how sick she was and I wasn’t even sure that she was going to make it through the night. At first, it didn’t register at first to either one of us what he was really saying.

I asked him to go out in the hall with me and asked him what exactly was he saying and he told me that she could go at any time. My heart was breaking and I was in disbelief, but I managed to ask him to come back in a few hours to tell my family.  We all got together and mostly everyone was crying. I remember looking over at my pops and he looked like he just had aged ten years in that very moment.

My younger sister who is a R.N. and the doctor went in my mom’s room and told her that she didn’t have much time and there was nothing that they could do other than make her comfortable. After she cried and got over the initial shock and a priest was called in, she wanted food from P.F. Chang’s and we all ate together in her room. You could feel how heavy everyone’s hearts were.

The next day they gave her a transfusion and it helped her tremendously. It allowed  for us the next week and half to be able to celebrate her life. People from all over the country and Canada came to see her. It was like a live wake. I would make sure those that came to see her got to talk to her privately for even 15 to 20 minutes. We even had food catered in the family lounge so others could go there while waiting for there turn.

My sister and I stayed with her for the rest of her time in the hospital taking care of her. The staff was great, but we didn’t want her to have to wait even for a minute to have something that she needed. I remember telling her, ‘Momma, your life was never about you, not even as a child, so it is going to be about you now. I am not taking ‘No’ for an answer.” She smiled at me and from that moment on, it was all about her.

One of the fondest memories I had in the hospital was when she told me that she loved me. Here I was 51 years old and never remembered her telling me that. My parents were Amazing ones and you knew you were loved but they just didn’t say it.

From the time that we were told that she first had leukemia until the time that she passed away was a total of five weeks. I am so grateful that I got to spend 4 of the 5 weeks with her. I cherish that time and consider it a gift. I am so grateful that I had taken the time that year and a half before she got sick, to tell her just how much she meant to me.

So ask yourself, “If this ever happened to one of my loved ones, is my relationship where I want it to be, do they really know how much I really appreciate them?” Please don’t wait until it is too late, let your loved ones know consistently just how much you appreciate them. You will be so glad that you did!

Please share below about a time that you told someone just how much that you appreciated them before it was too late, thanks!

 


 

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How To Be Alone But Not Feel Lonely

 

 

 “If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.” ~ Maxwell Maltz.

A lot of us Baby Boomers were raised with the idea that we would go to college, have a career, meet the person of our dreams and get married, have children and live happily ever after. But as some of you reading this knows, that is not always what happens.

When I was in high school, there were 5 of us girls that hung around together.  We all went to college and by the time I got married at 21 years of age, so had 3 of the other girls. It seemed like back then that if you weren’t married by a certain age that people would think something was wrong with you. What a limiting belief that was!

If you were like me you might have thought like I did back when I got married the first time, that getting married would make me happy, boy was I sadly mistaken.  I have learned over the years that happiness becomes part of the essence of who we are. It’s only when we truly love and embrace who we are and continually fill ourselves up with  joy, happiness, honor, trust, respect, self-esteem, worthiness and all of those other goodies, that we are truly happy.

So if you finding that your life as you may once have known it, is not quite what you expected and you are alone…the good news is that you don’t have to feel lonely! I know especially with the holidays fast approaching you may not feel too excited about being alone. I think these tips that I am going to share with you may help.

Tips On How To Be Alone But Not Feel Lonely

Love & Embrace Who You Are:

Learn to truly love yourself and to embrace the Amazing person that you are. Fill yourself up continually with love, joy, happiness, honor, trust, self-esteem, respect and all of the other goodies.

Take time everyday to write down at the top of a piece of loose leaf paper, I am… The more that you can do this you will connect with yourself even more so and feel empowered!

Allow yourself time to just ‘Be’ and to let yourself just feel whatever it is that you need to. Reconnect with yourself and get to know you even better. Nurture yourself and have compassion towards yourself. You deserve it!

 

Treat Yourself As A Priority Instead Of An Option:

You probably found that as your relationship or marriage was ending, that you might have given all of yourself to that other person just to try to make it work. You probably were making yourself an option instead of a priority. When you start treating yourself as a priority rather then as an option, you will start to feel like you really matter!

Think of all the things that you do for those that you love. Don’t you think that you, too should get those as well from yourself? When others start to see the difference in how you are treating yourself, they will start to do so, as well. The beauty of all of this is, that now you will have even more to give and share of the BEST you with those in your life now, as well as someone new that you may meet.

Do Things That Make You Feel Good:

Buy your favorite cologne or perfume that makes you feel special and sexy! Or you may have wanted a particular color shirt and kept putting it off because your partner at the time may not have liked it…Buy it!

You might love to go to the movies, but your partner didn’t,  so you never went. Make plans to go out to dinner and a movie with a friend and really enjoy it!

 Live In The Moment:

When you live in the Moment, you are not worrying about what you can’t change about the past and you’re not preoccupied with the future. You are not stuck in the past and you aren’t so busy planning every little detail of the future. Yo can’t grow if you are stuck in the past.

By living in the moment, you tend to make better decisions as your focus is on the present. It’s not to say, if you are a single parent and have a very busy life, that you don’t want look ahead to your child’s football practice or what to make for dinner. But rather, what you can do is take time out of your day to devote a few minutes to going over your family’s schedule on a calendar and perhaps writing out a list of the things that are a priority. But by always being preoccupied with all the things that you need to do, just makes for you to feel even more overwhelmed.

When you embrace and live in the moment and give gratitude for where you are even if it is not where you want to be, helps you to be able to take that next inspired step to get you where you want to be.

You deserve to have an Extraordinary life! Don’t settle and look for someone just because you might be lonely. Life is meant to be lived passionately, to really embrace it! The first step in doing so is to really love, honor and embrace who you are! Tap into your true Magnificence and step into your Greatness and let yourself really SHINE! I am rooting for you!


 

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Turning your Relationships from Ordinary into Extraordinary

 

Anyone can have a relationship but it doesn’t mean it is a good relationship.  Extraordinary relationships come through understanding, hard work, trust, compromise and the dedication to building them every day.

Relationships are hard. You can’t just assume that they are always going to be just as they once were. Nothing ever is. We are constantly evolving; therefore our relationships do as well.  The saying “You reap what you sow” is exactly right. What you put into your relationship is what you are going to receive from it in return.

Dating and marriage is very different then it was years ago but the work and commitment are the same.  If you want it to be great you have to do the work.  You have to nurture it daily. Take pride and be truly committed to it.  There will be struggles, disagreements and hardships, but if your heart is true and you are clear on what it is you want in your relationship the possibility to make it extraordinary is endless.

We live in an age where so many relationships do not last.  Partly because people give up and the other part is people are not really clear on what it is they need to be and to give in order to make their relationship successful.  But there are those relationships I am sure we have all seen that are truly extraordinary. It wasn’t because luck made it so for these people. It was because they made the conscious effort when they began to do what it took to make their relationship a priority and turn it into extraordinary.

There are many things you can do to build, strengthen and enhance your relationship.  Just be open to doing the work and seeing all of the the possibilities.

Small daily steps can turn your relationship into a lasting, fulfilling and truly amazing experience. Turning it into the extraordinary relationship you have always desired.

1.    Things Change 

When you first enter into a relationship, things are new, fresh, exciting. It’s a new adventure but then daily life begins to happen.  Jobs, finances, children, family all come into play and the newness begins to fade.  The little things your partner once did that never seemed to bother you now drive you crazy. It is important to sit down with your partner and talk, remembering why you were attracted in the first place.  Those things that once didn’t nag you but now do, are they really that important?  Perhaps they are still those petty things but with everyday stresses they appear much bigger.  Let them go again and focus on what you did that attracted your partner in the beginning.  Relive those moments, flirt, write that love note and place in their pocket or purse.  Change is inevitable so why not make it a change for the better?

2.     Spend Time Together 

Having time together as adults is vital to a lasting relationship. Set aside a date night, whether you go with friends, a movie or a quiet dinner. Take that time to just “Be” together.  No talking about bills, family or chores that needs to be done. Instead talk about your future together, your hopes and dreams and how together you can make them happen.  Hold hands, look into each other’s eyes and express your appreciation for their time and love they are giving to you.

3.     Wow your Partner

We get so busy in our lives we forget the details.  When you plan you special time together, remember the details are just as important.  Don’t just throw on something you normally wear.  Wow, you partner with that outfit in your closet you rarely wear.  Get that haircut you have been needing and act as though it’s you first date.  You wouldn’t go out looking scruffy on your first date and your partner deserves the best of you now also.  Show them you were thinking about them as you got ready.  If you know of something your partner loves to do but rarely has the opportunity to do surprise them.  When it’s your time together, let them know you have a surprise instead.  You are still going to spend time together but that you decided to treat them to something extra special this time. Just for them.  Maybe it’s a game or a concert, whatever it may be just choose to WOW them.

4.     The Power of your Words and Touch 

A loving touch and kind words can do so much for anyone.  Affection is something we all need to give and to receive.  It is human nature and no one can live without it.  Touching your partners hand, kissing them affectionately on the neck, a gentle pat on the leg shows them they are cared for, appreciated and needed.  Whisper, “I love you” to them, tell them they are handsome or beautiful.   Watch how they light up.  You words and touch are two very powerful tools, use them!

5.     Allow Room 

Just as you need to spend time with your partner you need to allow them room also.  We all have things we like that our partners may not enjoy. That’s ok.  It makes us who we are.  Being a couple does not mean you have to do everything together or like exactly all the same things.  We all need time to ourselves, to just “BE” for a little while and find our inner peace. We when give to ourselves we are able to give to others.  Allow your partner room to go shopping or fishing alone.  Trust them and respect their alone time.  You will be grateful you have and they will appreciate you all the more.

6.     Show Interest 

Don’t just pretend to be interested in what your partner says or does.  Really be interested!  When you ask them how their day was or what is happening with work, pay attention.  Really hear what they are saying to you.  Repeat what you have heard so that you are sure you are understanding and show interest.  It isn’t always so much their work that interests you but it’s their life that you care about.

7.     Communication 

Our lives get so busy that we forget to communicate. We assume to often that the other person knows what we are thinking and feeling. Fact is, they don’t.  You have to talk to each other.  Let your guard down and know that you can say anything to each other and the other person will respect what you say and how you feel. It doesn’t mean your partner will always agree with you.  It means you are willing to really listen and hear your partner. You will work together to find a solution that will benefit you both.  Don’t assume or get upset that your partner doesn’t always see or feel what you are feeling.  Remember, their life it just as busy as yours and working together as a team is how you become extraordinary together.

Relationships take work.  Having the right attitude and commitment can make all of the difference in how successful you relationship really is. Are you ready to turn you ordinary relationship into an extraordinary one?

I would love to connect with you on my Facebook Business Page…https://www.facebook.com/SusanCanHelpMeToday where I post Daily Mindset Tips and a lot more, thank you!  I look forward to connecting with you!

 


 

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How to Thrive Instead of Just Survive a Divorce

 

                                                                                                           



Believe or not you can actually thrive while going through a divorce. In order to do so, you will have to change your mindset. In many cases the people involved, feel like they have failed in some way because their marriage is over. It is not that anyone failed, but in fact it is because the natures of the two people are not aligned. Perhaps they never were aligned and over time this became an unresolved issue or as in many situations people grow and in doing so they change causing their natures to no longer take the same path.

There is a lot to be said about people growing older, more mature, wiser. Our lives are in a constant state of change, by our everyday experiences.  Some things are great and pleasant experiences while others are hard and more about learning.  Whether we think so or not we are always evolving.  That being said, people change. Sometimes it is just the fact that one partner has just grown so much more then the other one, that the natures are no longer remotely aligned. A lot of times people change and are no longer needy like they might have been, but have grown into their own skin. They have come to discover who they really are as an individual.

Many times, a couple grows apart and want different things for where they are at this time in their life.  These changes are not about having failed at your relationship. They are about having grown, being able to accept the changes that are taking place and moving forward with them in a positive way.

Several years ago, when I decided to leave my 1st marriage after almost 23 years, I felt this sense of inner peace that I hadn’t felt in such a long time. I also realized at almost 44 years old, that I no longer needed my parents’ approval or anyone else’s for that matter but my own. That was such an ‘AHA’ moment for me.  I had found “ME” and was ready to embrace all that I had become.  I had the strength to set aside the opinions of others and do what was needed for me.  I was in control.

Not only did I choose to get a divorce but I moved over 800 miles away right after 9/11 to a State where I knew maybe a couple of people as acquaintances. I was scared yes, but I also felt so empowered and was ready to start my new journey. I had arrived at that place inside of myself where I knew I was ready. You see most of those 23 years I spent trying to please everybody, but myself. I had lost myself in trying to help my ex to be the best that he could be. It is very sad when you think about it.

My ex and I actually went through a mediator rather than each hire our own attorney. We had a home and quite a bit of investments, etc. but we settled very amicably. We were both able to accept our differences and it allowed us to settle the issues between us as adults.  So much in so, that we drove to the Court House together the morning of our divorce and that night before I was flying out to go back home in the morning, we took our sons out to dinner and to the Outlets shopping. Our boys were 16 and 20 at the time.

Now, you might be thinking as you read this, there is no possible way mine is going this way or even if I ever chose to get a divorce. I am going to share some tips with you on how you can have your divorce not be the ugly way that you hear how so many others have had going through it.

The end of a relationship is almost always painful and emotionally challenging. As devastating  as it is when it happens, though, you do have the strength to put the relationship in your past and move forward. How can you find this strength?

6 Tips On How To Thrive instead of just Survive  During This Challenging Time:

#1 Stop The Blame Game:

First of all, putting blame on your partner or yourself accomplishes nothing other than more harm. Beating yourself up over what has happened only slows the healing process for you both.  Own what you did or did not do while you were together and then let it go. If you are having a hard time with letting go, ask yourself, “Did I do the best I could in any given situation with what knowledge that I had?”  More than likely, the answer will be. ‘Yes!’ Forgiving yourself as well as your partner is key to your recovery.

Acknowledge your feelings, at least to yourself.  Admit that you feel bummed out, rejected or incredibly disappointed in how things turned out.  These are human feelings and you’re entitled to them.

Take some quiet time to write in your journal out or just think about what you really would want to say to them if you could. Then just let it all out. Now here is the important part, release it and them.

Let them both go! Do not hang onto the negative feelings any longer.  Then write or say to yourself, “I forgive you. I wish you the very best.” If you feel that you owe them an apology and you are not ready to do that in person, you can use this technique to do it as well. Write or think about what you would say to them and then release it and let it go. At the end write or in your thoughts say, “I am sorry. Please forgive me.” Doesn’t that make a difference in how you feel?  Pay close attention to how your body feels when you release all of the negative feelings that have been holding you back. Feel the sense of peace?

Recognize a divorce as an opportunity. Even though this is very hard to do, view your divorce as a time to thrive by doing different activities, meeting new people and being involved in new social situations.

After a divorce it is a good time to learn something new, stretch your mind and allow yourself to think about something else. Find something that interests you and can challenge you.

#2 Become Clear:

In your journal, write how you envision your life to be. Focus on what you really want. A great exercise to find out what you truly want is to draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. On the left side write out what you don’t want and then go to the right hand column and put opposite of what you don’t want. Remember, do not stay focused for long on what you don’t want, write it down and move on, use it as a guide to find out exactly what you want.

The more you focus on what you do want and get into the feeling of what your life would feel like having what you want, the quicker you become open to receiving it into your life. Believe it can happen and hold onto that feeling. When you start to get overwhelmed or discouraged go to a place where you can tap into that feeling again.  Allow it to wash over you and be grateful for where you are right now in your life even if it is not where you want it to be. Doing this will open your heart to receive more and you will see things start to happen much faster.  I have found when I show gratitude for the experiences of tough times, my life then goes to that next remarkable level.


#3 You are Your Own Best Support:

It is so important to continually fill yourself up with love, joy, happiness, trust, respect, self-esteem, honor, worthiness and here it comes, FORGIVNESS.  By doing this you will become your own support system. Have you ever been around a friend or maybe you have done it yourself in the past where all that was being talked about was the soon to be ex?  It seemed as though they couldn’t get past it. When you become your own support system and have filled yourself with up all of the other goodies, you can take that and go to your other relationships with your children, relatives and friends and have more to give and share of the ‘Best’ you. The support that you receive from them will enrich what you already have given to yourself.

Along the way you may find that as you are growing and making changes you have friends that are stuck in the past and they may try and keep you there with them. They may not understand why the divorce isn’t shutting you down.

Sometimes, people do not always understand your reason as to why you need a divorce and do not agree with your decision at all.  You have to re-evaluate those relationships, and release them as well.  It is very important that you surround yourself with like-minded people who want to help lift you higher instead of holding you down or back as you heal.

#4 Live In The Present:

One of the ways of continually filling yourself up is to ‘Live in the Present! By living in the present, you are not allowing yourself to stay stuck in the past and you are not just focused on the future. There are people who are so stuck in the past that they merely existing, if you do this you will never grow.

 On the other hand, there are people who live just for the future and they have their lives all planned out. Now it is okay to take the little useful snip-its from the past and use them in the present to help you grow even more so. You may want to model your behavior in the past that got you the results that you are looking for. Any part of the past that no longer serves you should be released. As far as the future, it is a great thing to have a plan for the future you want to create and build, but don’t plan every little detail in your life.

When you are living in the present, everything will just fall into place how it is supposed to be. You will be able to make decisions based on what is happening now instead of the past or what you think might happen in the future. By living in the present it helps with your positive mindset because you aren’t bringing into your life, any of the thinking of what your partner may or may not have done.  You are living each moment with what is right in front of you. Your decisions will be better, clearer and easier to make and they will be the right choices for “YOU” and for where you are in your Extraordinary journey called life.


#5 Stay In The Present:

One of the best ways of staying in the present is to meditate. It helps clear you mind and allows you to be aware of where you are at this very moment. It also helps you to become centered and at the very core of what brings you peace.

Write in your journal every morning and write out how you see and want your day to go. This allows you to get clear and shifts your thinking to just that day. I often suggest that my clients think of a ‘Theme’ word that they want their day to be like and make that their focus. If you want a day where you are at peace, then you not only need to take effective action to make that happen, but you will also need to feed your subconscious peaceful thoughts and these thoughts must be ones where you are already at peace.

#6 Take Care of You:

When life gets busy and hectic, it is important to take that 5 minutes or more to let yourself just ‘Be’. Sneak off to your favorite quiet place and just allow your mind wander. Forget about all the things that you have to do or what might be going on, but savor those moments that bring you joy. By doing so, you start to rejuvenate yourself.

If you work from home, and are always on your computer it is so important to step away from your computer, your phone, etc.  Set it all dawn and walk away.  I do this at least a couple times a day if not more. Take that 5 minutes to pamper yourself. Maybe fix your favorite beverage and just step out into the fresh air. When you do go back to whatever it is that you are doing, you will find yourself ready to tackle your workload again any new challenges that might come your way. You will notice how your creative juices begin to flow again.

Focus on your body. Think about the areas you want to maintain or improve upon.

Finding time for prayer, meditation, breathing exercises, yoga or whatever it is that helps you to get to get to that peaceful place inside of you. Write in your journal, this will provide you a place and space to let out your feelings. Some of the other things I suggested above also bring clarity and focus, not to mention a peacefulness and resolve you need to keep moving forward. I do all of these except for yoga every day.  When my day starts to slip away from me & I get a bit overwhelmed, I know that I am missing having not done one or more of these things and I immediately take the time to do so.

Consider it your inner compass, and allow it to guide you to where you want to go.

Share your thoughts or feelings about what it is you are feeling and going through until you no longer feel the need. Seek support when you need it and you feel your mood shifting.  Recognize that in order to get over it you must get through it.

Learn to make yourself a priority rather than an option. When you fill yourself up with all those goodies  I mentioned  you have allowed yourself to become a priority you will find that you will have a great inner peace. You will also find that you will are able to give and share more of yourself to others in your life. You want to thrive during this challenging time not just survive it. You deserve that and owe it to yourself. As you go through your journey know that you deserve the very best that life has to offer you.

You are more than Enough. Even if it is your partner or spouse who wants the split, there is NOTHING WRONG with you. Usually, it isn’t about the other partner at all, but rather the person wanting to leave has grown and may just want different things.  Change happens whether we want it to or not. It is what we do about it that makes all the difference in our lives and well beings.

You are absolutely Amazing!  Now,  get up,  get out,  get moving  and create yourself and the life of your dreams …there is a Gigantic world waiting for you to embrace and for your true Magnificence and   Greatness to Shine!!!

I would love to connect with you on my Facebook Business Page…Susan Can Help Me Today where I post Daily Mindset Tips and a lot more, thank you!  I look forward to connecting with you!

 


 

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