Having the wrong mindset can definitely affect all of your relationships in a negative way, including the one with yourself. If you allow yourself to have limiting beliefs of I am not enough, or they will not like me once they get to know me…you will become needy and a taker. Gradually, this will become your reality and that other person will not want to be around you.
It’s not that you intend to be that way, but if you are not filling yourself up with all the goodies, as I call them…you won’t be able to give and share. There will always be this empty place inside of you. Healthy relationships are a place that we go to give and share, and without the right mindset your relationship will definitely suffer.
When we fill ourselves up with love, honor, trust, respect, joy, happiness, self-esteem and forgiveness we are able to give and share of ourselves with others…our relationships have a much better chance at thriving. Two of the biggest fears of human beings are that we are not good enough and that we won’t be loved.
By continually stacking reasons why you are more than enough and why you are loved it helps when that little voice of self-doubt tries to take over. If you are continually stacking positive things they will outweigh the negative ones. Soon, you won’t be able to hear that little negative voice anymore. Your mindset has become more positive you won’t be having those limiting beliefs that you are not good enough.
Tips on Having the Right Mindset:
The next time someone does or says something that upsets you or you are not sure where they are coming from, do not presume that it is directed towards you. Much of the time it is not about you at all, it is usually about the other person trying to work through some things in their own life. Instead, attach 2 or 3 positive meanings to what it might be.
Here’s an example, if you were in a relationship and that person was not dependable and you always had to check on things that you depended on them for and now you are in a new relationship and they are very dependable, then one day they happen to forget something and you start presuming that they are starting to do what that other person use to do, and you start jumping all over them, that night is not going to be a very good one.
If you choose to stay in the present and remain calm and by attaching the positive reasons what it could be, and focus on everything being fabulous…chances are it will be. What we put out comes back to us. If you continually jump to conclusions that are not exactly true, that person sooner or later is not going to relate to you. Then the relationship is over.
Live In The Present:
By living in the present, you are not dwelling the past and you are not just focused on the future. There are people who are so stuck in the past and just exist, they do not know how to move forward and grow. On the other hand, there are people who live only for the future and they have their lives completely planned out.
It is okay to take the lessons we have learned from the past and use them in the present to help you grow even more so. You may choose to model your behavior in the past that got you the results you desire. The rest of the past that no longer serves you should be released. As for the future, it is a great thing to have a plan for your business or plans for things you have been wanting to accomplish, etc., but don’t plan everything little detail in your life.
When you are living in the present, the universe has a way of allowing everything to just fall into place how it is meant to be. You will make decisions based on the present, allowing the universe to give you what you really need .
By living in the present, it helps you to have a positive mindset because you aren’t bringing into your life all of the negative things from your past into your thinking. You are living each moment with what is right in front of you. The decisions you need to make will become clear and will be better and easier to make. They will be the right choices for you and for where you are in are in your journey we call “Life”.
Stay In the Present:
A lot of people try to live in the Now, but all of a sudden something in the past triggers a limiting belief and here they are again…stuck in the past. One of the best ways of staying in the present is through meditation. It helps you to clear all the clutter in your mind and to be aware of where you are at this very moment. Meditation helps keeps you centered and brings peace into your life.
Writing in your journal is very important. By doing this every morning it allows you to get clear on how you want your day to go. It keeps you in the present and you can write out exactly how you see your day! I suggest that my clients think of a word that they want to their day to be and make that their focus.
If you want a day of abundance, then you not only need to take the needed action to make that happen, but you will also need to feed your subconscious thoughts of abundance and ones that are telling your subconscious that you are already living in abundance.
By allowing yourself to just ‘Be’ throughout the day, it helps you to stay in the present. As entrepreneurs, we get very busy working on the computer, dealing with your clients, etc. and it is very easy to get consumed by our work loads and before you know it your day has passed by. By taking little moments to just ‘Be’ at different times during your day it keeps you where you need to be in your mindset.
Be grateful for what you have right now and where you are in your life at this very moment. You may have an old laptop that you are trying to run your business off of, but if you are grateful for it, a new one will come to you. Something I am learning to master is to be grateful for the experiences and lessons I have learned from challenging times. When you can do this, your life starts to get better and extraordinary things begin to happen. Being grateful puts your body, mind and thoughts in a better place which naturally gives you a more positive mindset.
Take some time to get clear on what you want in your life and in your relationships. Write out what you really want and then focus on it. Get into the feeling on how you want your life to be, and how having that will make you feel. Hold onto that feeling and when that voice of self-doubt appears and wants to convince you otherwise, you will be more equipped to not listen to it. Every morning take some time to read something that inspires or motivates you. This will naturally give you the positive boost to start your day. By reading just a page or two, it can make such a difference in your daily life and keep you in the right mindset.
When you are continually living in the present and taking control of your mindset, you will start to have a more successful and balanced life. The main components of your life will all be in harmony with each other. You can’t expect to have Amazing relationships if are not where you need to be inside. Your very core will be at peace and everything in your life will start to flow like it is supposed to be. You will find just how Extraordinary your life will become. I believe in you and all that you are meant to BE!
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