If you have been through a divorce you know how hard it can be to learn how to move on after marriage. If you had been a couple for many years it can be even more difficult to get out into the dating scene again. Many may not even try because it is too frightening to even think about.
Some people may be so devastated after marriage that they spend the rest of their lives alone, and that is a true shame. Do not let this happen to you. Divorce can be a painful experience but you can get through it, you just have to want to try. It really is just a matter of allowing yourself time to grieve and then learn how to be self-sufficient again.
Those people who choose to close themselves off after a divorce frequently do not know how to to deal with their pain and the issues that led to the divorce in the first place. Relationships fall apart for many reasons and dealing with those reasons really is the only way to move on. If you do not ever learn how to deal with the pain then you will not ever be able to move on.
If this reminds you of your current situation then you need to learn to help yourself. First and foremost, feel all the emotions that are there and then find a way to put them to rest. You do have a life and now is the perfect time to live it. If you just can't seem to move on after several months then do not hesitate to get some professional help. Depression is a common side effect of the trauma we go through in our lives. Go ahead and get treatment if you need it.
There is no shame in getting the help you need. This is your life and if you ever want to be happy and have a shot at a better relationship in the future then you really need to address the issues and deal with them once and for all.
Figure out who you are all by yourself and learn to like the new you. Take your time to learn who you can be and maybe realize your potential as well. Every day is a step closer to being the strong person you know you can be.
Most people make the big mistake of trying to drown their sorrows by finding someone else to replace their lost love. Huge mistake. Not only do you run the risk of hurting someone else just because you have not really moved on, you also could make the huge mistake of thinking that you are in love with the new person when in reality you are just in a rebound relationship.
For your sake and the sake of your future relationships take the time you need to allow yourself to heal before you look for solace in someone else's arms. This is the only way you can be sure that you are healed enough for a real relationship. Do not enter into a rebound relationship right after marriage, they just never work out for the best.
