Some people view the act of apologizing as a sign of weakness. That attitude can create real problems in relationships unless both parties have the same beliefs. If not, relationships without apologizing can be very stressful.
Too often, one person in a relationship will think that they either don't need to apologize or that apologizing is wrong for one reason or another.
Relationships without apologizing are fine as long as both parties view the idea of apologizing in the same way, but if only one of you has this view… good luck.
To me, apologizing is not a sign of weakness. Personally, I believe that many people use that as an excuse to not apologize.
But why would someone go to such links just to get out of apologizing?
Well, I suppose every person has their own reasons, but in my experience, I have noticed that it tends to fall into one main category; insecurity.
In my life I have known some people who refuse to apologize. I have figured out that the reason for this was not really that they thought they were right but rather they were ultra insecure.
Since they found themselves lacking in some way, they were afraid that if they apologized, and basically admitted they were wrong, it would only prove their fears that they weren't good enough to be true.
The idea that an apology is a sign of weakness is actually kind of stupid if you really think of it.
Do you like to admit you were wrong? Is it fun to have to admit you were wrong or that you made a mistake? No, of course not.
It's not easy to admit to yourself, let alone anyone else, that you were wrong and that you made a mistake.
So, if you are willing to do something, like apologize, that is difficult for you, isn't that actually a sign of strength?
So how can it be a sign of weakness when it actually takes a lot of strength and character to apologize? It can't.
It is actually a sign of strength to offer a sincere apology to someone you have wronged in some way.
The people who are insecure and selfish try to make it seem that they are "strong" by not apologizing.
But in reality their lack of character and strength and their refusal to apologize just underscores how very weak and insecure they really are.
The only real advice I can offer anyone who is in a relationship with such a person is to get out.
If someone is that insecure and selfish, their unwillingness to admit their mistakes and make changes will just be the tip of the iceberg.
It won't be an easy relationship and you will eventually find that the love you once felt has faded.
If you see this trait in yourself, it is never too late to become the man or woman you've always wanted to be.
You can change who you are and the way you act and treat other people. It may sound odd, but insecurity is a learned trait.
You can re-train yourself to have confidence and be more secure in the person you are. It will take time, but it is worth it and it is possible.
Relationships without apologizing are fine as long as both of you are into the whole not apologizing thing. But if it is just one of you, it will be a long road.
