To be a confident girlfriend you first need to be a confident woman. Although appearing insecure and frightened may appeal to some men because they can then be the protective one, but most men don't like insecure women. When a woman is insecure she will constantly worry about losing her man and will become very possessive off him. She may constantly question him and want to know where he is and what he is doing all the time and a man will soon become tired of this. Instead, it is best to be confident, smart and independent and he will be proud to be your man.
There are men that are bullies and treat their girlfriends badly and usually this is because the man is insecure. They tried to hide their insecurities by being in control of the relationship and the woman. They think that if they are in control then they are more of a man. If you have a man like this then he may not react well to your change if you become independent and confident but if a man is like this then you need to ask yourself if he is really the man you want to spend your life with.
If you feel that you are insecure and get very jealous then there are some questions that you need to ask yourself so you can become more confident.
Why are you so jealous? Is there a reason to be jealous? Has your boyfriend been unfaithful and caused you to lose trust in him? Does your boyfriend flirt with other girls just to make you jealous? Have you been cheated on by a previous boyfriend? Or are you just an insecure person and always have been?
You need to ask yourself these questions and find out the reason for your jealousy and insecurity. Only when you find the reason can you fix it. You may need to see a counselor for a while to work through your insecurities and learn to be confident and happy with your life and your relationship.
When you know the reason for your insecurities, whether they are from something that has happened in the past or whether they are from something your boyfriend is doing, when you know the reason you can then combat your insecurities and become more confident in yourself.
In some cases you may have been confident in the past but for some reason have become insecure within your relationship. This can happen if you and your boyfriend are on different levels when it comes to relationships. You may feel that you love him more than he loves you or you need him more than he needs you. If you have these feelings then it is natural that you will begin to feel insecure.
These insecurities can deepen the problem and when he knows you are insecure he may begin to love you or need you less. Sometimes it may be a big misconception that you believe you love him more than he loves you and if you talk to him about it you might find that it isn't the case. If you can learn to be confident again then you will once again be the confident person he first fell in love with and this can bring back the spark and the love in the relationship.