It's great to be in love, but there are times when you need some space in a relationship. That sounds simple enough, but we all have a different idea of what space means in the context of the people we care about. To make things more complicated, your definition of space may be the opposite of your partner's definition. Still, you want your sanity, so what can you do to get the space you need without hurting someone you love?

We have already touched on the first step: you have to each explain what the concept of space in a relationship means to you. You also have to do it in a way that doesn't come across as insensitive to your partner.

If you need a fair amount of personal space but your partner doesn't, then you run the risk of giving them wrong impression. There are some people who feel the need to be with other people at any given moment. A clingy partner may misinterpret your need for space as your not wanting to be with them. You will have to approach the subject carefully, and be sure to let them know that it isn't anything personal, and that you don't love them any less. Keep this in mind if your partner is the one asking for more space.

At this point it may seem as though you each should just take as much time away from each other as you wish, but that is not what we're talking about. The first step is to start a conversation about your respective needs for space, but then you need to start working out solutions that work well for you as a couple.

Perhaps you will be lucky and will hit on an elegant solution that pleases both of you, and you will do so with very little discussion. That would be wonderful, but chances are that the two of you will need to talk about it for a while, and over the course of several discussions. Your goal should be to come up with a way for getting the space you each need, and to do it in a way that keeps each other happy.

The need for space in a relationship is normal, but there are times when it can also be a sign that something is wrong. If either you or your partner suddenly feels the need to be withdrawn from the other, then you need to get to the bottom of it. There could be any number of reasons for this, but it's best to take it seriously and see if there is cause for concern.

Space in a relationship has various meanings, but with a little thought, you will be able to make sure you and your partner are getting the space you both need. Furthermore, you can handle it in a way that doesn't lead to hurt feelings, and actually strengthens your relationship.

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While the science is completely understood, there is evidence that married people live longer than their single counterparts. Taking it a step further, we could say that people really do die from broken hearts. If you have been through a break up recently, then it's perfectly natural for you to want a remedy for a broken heart. I'm not going to sugarcoat it and pretend that everything will be perfect overnight, or that it will be easy, but I will tell you that you will find relief if you stick to a few basic steps.

1. Make a commitment to feeling better. This is not the time to be wishy-washy; you have to make the decision that you want your broken heart to get better. No wasting time on needless guilt. No wasting time on wondering what could have been. No making yourself some sort of self-styled relationship martyr. None of those things are a remedy for a broken heart. Instead, what you need to do is decide that you are going to feel better, maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but you will feel better.

2. Get your emotions in check. Break ups can wreak havoc on your emotions, but the sooner you can get them under control, the better. That's not to say that you should repress your emotions or pretend that they're not there. Doing that may feel good for a while, but then your unresolved emotions will pop up in unexpected ways. So, you need to face them head on and do your best to get past them.

3. Accept how things are, not how you wish they were. This is one of the most important parts of any remedy for a broken heart. There is a sort of grieving process that goes on after a break up, and denial is a common reaction. If you are fantasizing about how good things really are when you know deep down that they are bad, then you need a reality check. Things will not improve if you let your imagination get the better of you. Accepting things as they are will allow you to deal with them, and that brings us to the next step.

4. Be happy and move on. Ha! Ha! Ha! Right? It's so easy to give out this advice, but it feels impossible when you are still stinging from a break up. However, if you follow all of the steps above, then you will eventually start to feel better. How long it takes will vary depending on how deeply you were into the relationship, what type of person you are, and how well you do the above steps. Regardless, the important thing to remember is that you really will be happy again.

The remedy for a broken heart isn't always easy to do, but it can be done if you are serious about wanting to feel better. Give it time and keep working on healing.

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Some people view the act of apologizing as a sign of weakness. That attitude can create real problems in relationships unless both parties have the same beliefs. If not, relationships without apologizing can be very stressful.

Too often, one person in a relationship will think that they either don't need to apologize or that apologizing is wrong for one reason or another.

Relationships without apologizing are fine as long as both parties view the idea of apologizing in the same way, but if only one of you has this view… good luck.

To me, apologizing is not a sign of weakness. Personally, I believe that many people use that as an excuse to not apologize.

But why would someone go to such links just to get out of apologizing?

Well, I suppose every person has their own reasons, but in my experience, I have noticed that it tends to fall into one main category; insecurity.

In my life I have known some people who refuse to apologize. I have figured out that the reason for this was not really that they thought they were right but rather they were ultra insecure.

Since they found themselves lacking in some way, they were afraid that if they apologized, and basically admitted they were wrong, it would only prove their fears that they weren't good enough to be true.

The idea that an apology is a sign of weakness is actually kind of stupid if you really think of it.

Do you like to admit you were wrong? Is it fun to have to admit you were wrong or that you made a mistake? No, of course not.

It's not easy to admit to yourself, let alone anyone else, that you were wrong and that you made a mistake.

So, if you are willing to do something, like apologize, that is difficult for you, isn't that actually a sign of strength?

So how can it be a sign of weakness when it actually takes a lot of strength and character to apologize? It can't.

It is actually a sign of strength to offer a sincere apology to someone you have wronged in some way.

The people who are insecure and selfish try to make it seem that they are "strong" by not apologizing.

But in reality their lack of character and strength and their refusal to apologize just underscores how very weak and insecure they really are.

The only real advice I can offer anyone who is in a relationship with such a person is to get out.

If someone is that insecure and selfish, their unwillingness to admit their mistakes and make changes will just be the tip of the iceberg.

It won't be an easy relationship and you will eventually find that the love you once felt has faded.

If you see this trait in yourself, it is never too late to become the man or woman you've always wanted to be.

You can change who you are and the way you act and treat other people. It may sound odd, but insecurity is a learned trait.

You can re-train yourself to have confidence and be more secure in the person you are. It will take time, but it is worth it and it is possible.

Relationships without apologizing are fine as long as both of you are into the whole not apologizing thing. But if it is just one of you, it will be a long road.

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Relationship counseling is the one that is most called upon. With good reason, too, since relationships tend to be counter intuitive. Counselors who specialize in relationships have helped couples and individuals to live happier and fulfilled lives.

To dispel the myths surrounding relationship counseling, it is important to know that it is not about winning or losing or placing blame. The central focus of the counseling is to develop the communication skills needed to learn from your partner and balance your needs with theirs. Blame only helps to alienate and push you partner away. A lot of the problems that cause us to pull our hair out are in fact nothing that is worth getting too angry about, but it takes an outside party to realize it.

Relationship counseling also puts both into a controlled environment where they can vent and get everything out in a safe way. The counselor sets the guidelines and rules the force and enable civilized discussion. Now that is not to say that what works for one couple will work for another. Some couples need a mediator, someone who just listens on the sides. This counselor will set guidelines for communication, allowing the couple to talk things out themselves.

Other couples need someone who will guide the discussion. Attempts to work things out on their own quickly degrades into yelling matches and bare knuckle arguments. Relationship counseling here aims to guide the conversation and not let it get out of hand or uncontrollable. Over all, there is a variety of couples who will need an equally variable number of counselors. Despite this, counseling is statistically certain to improve your relationship.

One of the things that needs to be learned is to identify and address the issues that threaten relationships. Unfortunately, the emotions and stresses that plagues relationships make it especially difficult to identify those issues. That is what relationship counseling is made to do. Counseling will identify the unique problems that prevent a couple from communicating, address the problems that are there and bring the couple to a place that will allow them to thrive.

Do you think that your relationship will not be helped by relationship counseling? What should be kept in mind is that what is good for a relationship is not something that would seem logical. Counseling can only help relationships. They enable the free flow of information and communication so that the problem can be discovered and addressed.

Maybe your relationship can find happiness without entering counseling, then more power to you. You have found something that enables you to communicate and discuss your problems, you are ahead of the game. But if not then you will find that relationship counseling will improve the quality and happiness in your partnership and your whole life.

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Let's face the facts, the early days of a relationship tend to be the easiest. You are both getting to know each other, and infatuation fills you with feelings of giddiness. Then time passes. Things simmer down and it sometimes gets boring. Staleness may not be the death of a relationship, but it doesn't help either. That's not good! What you need are some fun things to do with your boyfriend.

Before you get too crazy, remember that our boyfriend has things that he enjoys doing by himself, and you should respect his need for alone time if he wants it. At the same time, you should be able to have fun together, and that's what the following ideas are intended to do.

1. Take a random drive. Just hop into the car and start driving. Don't worry about your destination, though you can certainly visit a particular place if the urge strikes you while you're driving. Not knowing where you are going adds to the excitement of the trip and it's a spontaneous action that can be a lot of fun. Pack clothes and toiletries if you think there will be a chance that you will end up staying the night somewhere.

2. Go on a picnic. This doesn't have to be anything fancy, even a few peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, potato chips, and soda will do nicely. You can pack fancier food if you like, but it's not the menu that matters, it's enjoying each other's company that makes this one of the fun things to do with your boyfriend. This also means that where you have your picnic isn't that important, anywhere that you can spread out a blanket on the grass is fine.

3. Do something unexpected. You know your boyfriend better than anybody else, so you should have some idea of what he likes. Think of something that he will enjoy, make sure his schedule is clear, and then surprise him! If you have been together for any amount of time, then the two of you are probably falling into a routine. Breaking that routine from time to time will help to keep your relationship fresh and exciting.

4. Visit a spa that caters to couples. Now, let's face it, some men may think this sounds too feminine, but talk your boyfriend into doing it anyway. It may take a while for him to feel comfortable, but you can be sure that he will feel fantastic once the trip to the spa is over. Don't be surprised if he's the first one to suggest it the next time the two of you are looking for something to do together.

These are just a few of the fun things to do with your boyfriend. A whole world is waiting out there, so learn to discover and enjoy it with your boyfriend. The list of things to do really is endless, and that leaves one question: what are you waiting for?

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Wow, rebound relationships. I can't think of many other situations that can do so much damage but feel so good. Nothing feels better than starting to feel alive again after a failed relationship. But, the problem is that often these new found feelings aren't that "real".

Most of us have been in rebound relationships at some point in our lives. Whether it was us who was doing the rebounding or our partner, we know that these types of relationships can be really tricky and wrought with pitfalls.

You see, the problem comes when the person who is just getting out of a relationship really hasn't moved on from their previous relationship. Oh sure, they may think they have moved on but in many cases they still have unresolved feelings about their ex and / or about the end of the relationship.

They think they are ready to love again, and it can sure feel great to feel that connection with another person again after a painful breakup, but in many cases they really aren't "whole" yet and not in a place where they can give someone else all of themselves.

That can cause a lot of extra heart ache for the "reboundee". If you get involved with someone who isn't fully over their old relationship you may find yourself on the outside looking in. So, how can you protect yourself from this situation?

Truthfully, you may not be able to. Since most of the time the person who is rebounding probably isn't even fully aware of it, it will be tough for you to pick up on the signs.

But, here are a few things that may indicate that your new love isn't totally ready to move on from their old love:

1. Sometimes, not always though, a sure sign that you are in a rebound is when your partners last relationship just ended. If it was a long term relationship and it has only been a few months it's improbable that they have totally dealt with all aspects of the break up enough to totally commit to you. Give them more time and take things slowly.

2. An overly "physical" relationship may be a sign that your new partner is only looking for some fun rather than a serious commitment. Watch yourself if they only seem to want to have sex but don't seem very interested in doing other things with you that would allow the two of you to form more of a bond.

3. Does your partner seem to enjoy being with you? Do they talk about the future with you (this doesn't mean marriage and babies but the concert next week the two of you are going to, etc.)? If you pay attention you can see the signs. Do they treat you like a lover or do they treat you more like a friend?

4. Does your partner talk about their ex a lot? If so, it is a sure sign that they are still thinking a lot about them. That isn't a sign that someone has moved on and is ready to date again. And don't think that because they say nasty things about their ex that that is ok, it's not. They are still thinking about them a lot.

Most of these things on their own don't necessarily mean a lot (except possibly for number 4) but taken as a whole it would sure seem to indicate that your new love isn't totally over their ex. Rebound relationships are usually not all that hard to spot; as long as you keep your eyes open.

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So you and your ex broke up a while ago, but you are still in love with them. You aren't sure if they love you. You wonder how they're doing. You want to know if they would be willing to get back together. To put it simply, you're a mess and you need some break up help.

At this stage there are only two real options, and you must choose one. You have to decide if you want to move on with your life and let your ex move on with theirs, or if you want to work things out and be a couple again. The steps you take from this point forward will be based on your decision, so be sure to take some time to consider it carefully.

If you have decided to move on and keep your ex a part of your past, then it's really a matter of learning to live with that decision. That's not saying it will be easy, because there will be times that you will wonder about "what might have been", but you need to do your best to not let such thoughts become an obsession. As time goes on you will find it easier to cope with their absence; however, that doesn't mean you have to completely erase all of the good times from your memory either.

Getting over somebody isn't easy, but there is another form of break up help that will make it easier. Keeping distracted with positive things works wonders. Here is a short list of things you can do: take up a new hobby, travel, do things that you always wanted to do but couldn't when you were together, go out with friends, or volunteer. Anything you can do to take your mind of your ex, and do it in a positive way, is fair game.

You will go about things quite differently if you have decided that you would like to get back together with your ex. What you need is a way to approach your ex that gives you the best opportunity for success. What you need is a plan.

The first thing you need to do is give things time to settle down. Don't contact your ex in any way during this time. Once enough time has passed you can contact your ex via phone or a hand-written letter. Your only goal at this point is to set up a time and place to talk to each other in person.

Once you have that done, it's time to meet. Be sure that this first conversation is calm and respectful. You shouldn't expect to get everything worked out in one meeting, so take things slowly and give it time. The more the two of you see each other in a positive setting, the more likely you re to get back together.

This is only the beginning, however, so if you find other break up help, then it's a good idea to take advantage of it right away.

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Finding your soul mate is not an easy task. There are nearly seven billion people on this planet, so to find just one that matches you perfectly is nearly impossible. However even with the odds stacked against us, we find ourselves falling in love and living happily ever after. But this ending does not happen for everyone, even if we find our soul mate.

The reason for this is because, even if we find the person of our dreams, we might not know how to go about founding a relationship with them, allowing the encounter to slip through our fingers. You do not need a Professional Match Making adviser to help you form a relationship with the person you like, you just need some basic tips to help nudge you in the right direction.

1. Do not rush. This is the first rule of any relationship. If you try to go too far too fast, you will ruin any chance you may have had. As the saying goes, slow and steady wins the race. You need to take your time and slowly build up your relationship. However do not go too slow as going too slow is just as bad as going too fast. Find a happy middle.

2. Learn about them. You may be attracted to this person, but you need to know who they are to know if they are right for you. Any Professional Match Making consultant can tell you that sharing common interests is vital for a healthy relationship. They say opposites attract, but only those with similar traits and interests will form a lastly relationship.

3. Be smart. A lot of people will enter into a relationship with someone they are not compatible with because they find that person attractive and find themselves in love. Well, love is blind and you need to be careful. If the person you are interested in simply is not right for you, do not stay in the relationship. Get out before you get too involved, as it will just make the break up that much more difficult down the road.

4. Be true to yourself. This one always seems corny but it is still something you should consider. Part of the courting game is making yourself look attractive and appealing to the person you are trying to get, both physically and with your personality. The problem is that people take this too far, they do not simply accentuate their good qualities, but they fabricate them.

Do not pretend to be someone you are not, as this will only cause you problems down the road as any Professional Match Making consultant can tell you. You can not maintain that mask for the rest of your life, and if they do not like the real you, this will be a problem.

So make sure not to make up a new personality just to win someone over. Accentuate the aspects of you that they might find attractive, but do not actually change anything about yourself unless you want to change it. Let them fall in love with you, not the person you are pretending to be.

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One of the newest trends in online dating is what is sometimes referred to as personality dating. The idea behind this type of dating site is simple, after you fill out an extensive personality assessment you will be matched based on the answers you provided when you filled out your assessment.

The premise is that matching two people based on compatibility will have a much better chance of making a great long term relationship. There are many people who will swear by this method, others may not be convinced. It really just depends on whether or not you were able to find someone special for you.

In some cases, people feel like they didn't do a good job on this personality dating "test" and would like a do over. According to my research, this is actually possible. It will require some leg work on your part, but it isn't impossible. For one thing you will need to call the customer service department, which is not something they readily advertise so it may take some hunting to find the number.

Now, be warned, all my research has lead me to believe that this process will not be easy. For one thing you have to find the number which as I said above, can be a challenge in and of itself. Next you should call either very early or late at night. You will also need to be prepared, you may need to let the phone ring for a long time before anyone will answer. I read that some people have had to sit on the phone and let it ring for an hour!

When you do finally, get a customer service rep you will need to explain to them you want to retake the test. Persistence is key here because the first response you will get to your request will most likely be "no". It isn't their policy to allow people to retake the test but if you stay calm and persistent, and you threaten to close your account because you aren't finding the kinds of matches you wanted, they will almost always relent and allow you to retake the test.

If you happen to get a particularly uncooperative customer service rep and they absolutely refuse to allow you to retake the test, you can always close your account and wait a few days and sign up with a different email address. My research said that many people opt for this option and it might just work well for you.

I would say that the jury is still out on whether or not this type of online dating practice really is as effective as they say it is. I guess it depends on your personal results. It may work well for some and not so well for others. There seems to be a lot of weight on filling out your profile in just the right way. One "bad" answer may make the difference between finding someone special and just getting frustrated.

I don't know if personality dating will work for you or not, but you may want to give it a shot. Finding someone who you share a deep connection with might be a great start to a beautiful relationship.

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When one of the parties in the relationship is thinking of moving on, break up focused conversations can be difficult to have. If your boyfriend or girlfriend approaches you with talk about a breakup, it may be difficult for you to hear what he or she has to say to you. Still, when your current significant other approaches you with a conversation about moving on, break up talk is going to have to happen.

This is actually a primary time for you to figure out what is going wrong in the relationship so that you can rectify the situation now rather than struggling to fix things in the future. It is common not to know how to handle moving on, break up decisions are often hard to swallow when you do not see them coming. Even if your boyfriend or girlfriend approaches you with the idea of moving on, break up is not necessarily inevitable, because there are healthy things that you can do in order to rectify the situation.

Most breakups can be avoided simply by figuring out what has led to the dissention in the relationship and nipping those problems in the bud before you chase your significant other away completely. If you want to keep your significant other from leaving the relationship and eventually moving on, break up centric conversations are going to need to happen so that the issues in the relationship can be fully explored. By exploring these issues and figuring out what went wrong, or what is going wrong at present, then you will have a much easier time of keeping your significant other from moving on, break up averted.

When it comes to preventing him or her from moving on, break up conversations should include the following:

– You should specifically ask why your significant other is unhappy in the relationship.

– You should specifically ask if there is anything that you can do to rectify the situation.

– You should retain all of the information that your significant other gives you so that you can make positive changes in the relationship according.

Once you have a strong basis for what is going wrong in the relationship, the next step is to make the necessary positive changes in order to keep your ex from moving on. If there is a communication breakdown, obviously you need to communicate more effectively. If your significant other is unhappy with something else, find a solution and begin to implement it however necessary to keep your significant other from finding a reason to leave you. It may seem like a lot of work at the outset, but it will be well worth the effort if it means preventing your significant other from breaking up with you and moving on, break up averted.

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