Most of us know that sometimes entering into a dating relationship can be equivalent to walking through a mine field. We enter into the relationship with high hopes and expectations. Sometimes those high hopes are realized, sometimes they aren't.

If you want to learn some simple tips to increase your chances of making any dating relationship you are a part of much more successful and happy, keep reading. I have compiled some simple information that may be able to help you out.

Now, I'm not claiming that any of this is new stuff, most of it is just common sense. But even with common sense issues you sometimes need a little reminder or you may just overlook a few points.

So, here we go:

1. The first thing I always tell people who aren't currently in a relationship but want to be is: work on you first. I'm not trying to imply that anyone is a huge mess but we all have varying degrees of issues and baggage.

Trying to identify and get rid of those issues and baggage is best undertaken before you meet someone rather than during or after the relationship. For one reason, the less baggage and issues you have and the more "whole" person you are will dictate what type of people you meet. So taking care of your own business first will make it much more likely that you will meet someone who is worthwhile.

For example, let's say that you have a lot of lingering hurt and trust issues because someone in your past cheated on you. If you just try to push these issues down without really facing them and getting over them, they will continue to haunt you.

Whether you realize it or not, you will attract other people who have similar issues. You will likely attract people who will do exactly what you expect them to do: cheat on you.

Fix yourself first.

2. Do not underestimate the importance of a high level of compatibility. I'm not talking about the two of you agreeing on everything but rather the two of you having similar outlooks on the important things such as honesty, fidelity, respect, etc.

If you think honesty is one of the most important characteristics a person can have, why would you even consider getting involved with someone who doesn't have a problem with "embellishing"? You are just setting yourself up for one disappointment after another.

So, when I say find someone you are compatible with, I"m not saying that the two of you shouldn't have different taste in movies or music (though having a little overlap in likes will make social activities easier to plan out) I'm talking about having similar outlooks on the big things.

So, if you want a happy and successful dating relationship, you should take time to work on yourself an find someone who has similar outlooks on the big things. Incompatiblity can make your whole relationship one stress filled misunderstanding after another. Who needs that?

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As a guy, trying to find true love can be a challenge. We're brought up in a society where we are taught to be strong and independent, and be the foundation for any relationship. Showing too many emotions makes us look weak, but this can make it difficult to truly connect with someone. This is why so many men out there struggle during the dating process.

Sometimes it can appear as if a man is cold and insensitive because they might handle rejection by seemingly ignoring it and moving on. But often times this is merely a defense mechanism to keep us from getting hurt. Even those who get a lot of dates and meet a lot of women can feel lonely because they do not get the kind of relationship they are hoping for.

In order to overcome these hurdles there are a lot of tips out there designed to help a guy out. But trying to keep all of that straight can be a difficult task, and a lot of tips conflict with one another. So knowing what to do can be hard. To that end it is best to just stick to the basics.

1. Appearance. In a perfectly world dating would not revolve around your first impression, nor would it matter how you looked. However that is not the world we live in, and how you look on a first date can make or break any budding relationship you may have. Make sure to take care of yourself and present yourself as you should, where you go has some say over what you wear, but you should always be well groomed and look the best you can for the situation.

2. Romance. Now days we think we should be all super romantic and try to connect with our soul mate right off the bat. But as the saying goes, slow and steady wins the race. Before you can determine whether or not you two are the perfect match for each other, you have to find out if you even like each other. Being friends is the first step to being lovers.

3. Conversation. A lot of people, both men and women, lack good conversational skills. We are either really shy while dating or we might prattle on about things endlessly. The only way you can truly get to know each other is by talking, so when you go on your date it is important to go somewhere that allows you to have a good conversation. Also make sure your conversation is a good back and forth, you need to listen as much as you talk.

4. Always be a gentleman. Chivalry in a lot of respects is dead, and in many occasions can be somewhat offensive to women. But that does not mean you shouldn't always be a gentleman. We guys no longer have to throw our coats on a puddle, or open doors for her. But we should still be kind, and respectful. Even if the date is not proceeding as you would like, and even if you may not feel any attraction to the woman, you should still remain polite until the very end.

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Even if you are only dating for fun and aren't interested in something more serious, you still will have more luck (and probably more fun) if you have some "ground rules" set up first.

I don't mean that you have to do a big list of rules or anything like that, I just mean do what you can to ensure that you and your partner know what you each expect and want from each other and the relationship.

The term "dating for fun" may mean one thing to one person and something quite different to the other. To make things easier for both of you and to reduce the risk of hurt, strife and misunderstandings, just talk about what you expect in a relationship.

Here are some things that I mean, some things that you should probably decide for yourself what you want or don't want, and then talk that over with whoever you date so you are both on the same page:

1. Fidelity. This is huge. Many people who are just dating in a causal relationship may also think that means that they don't have to be faithful. They may think that they are still basically a free agent and can do whatever they want to do.

Spelling out your expectations right from the very start, can be a little uncomfortable but it can also save a lot of issues down the road. After all, if you are just looking for fun, you want to have fun.

You sure don't want to have to deal with a lot of complaining and fighting because you thought you could date other people but your dating partner thought that you shouldn't.

2. If you both agree that you don't have to be exclusive, are you going to share your exploits with each other or will you keep it to yourself? Are you sure that neither of you will feel jealousy? And one other thing, both genders are very capable of feeling jealousy no matter what they say.

At the end of the day, and at the risk of sounding sexist, sometimes men can sometimes have two different standards. They may think it's perfectly ok for them to date multiple people but they will often think poorly of any woman who dates a lot of men.

If that describes you, you really should take some time to evaluate the type of person you are. If you are going to judge someone for doing the exact same thing you are doing, that doesn't speak that highly for the type of person you are. Don't tell someone that you don't care if they date others and then turn around and have a problem with it, that's not fair.

So, dating for fun can be… well, fun. But, unless you are honest and open (with your partners as well as with yourself) about what you want, don't want and what you expect, you will most likely have less fun and more stress. It's extremely important for both of you to be on the same page about the specifics of your relationship.

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No doubt about it, dating is challenging. You have to get up the nerve to ask a woman out, then you have to figure out where to have the date, you have to be on your best behavior (what will you say and do?), and do it all in a way that comes across as confident and natural (no matter how you may be feeling on the inside). A lot of guys have an even harder time when it comes to dating beautiful women. But, as you will see, it doesn't have to be difficult.

Rule #1 is that you should never treat any woman as an object, and that includes pretty women. In other words, while you may be attracted to their physical appearance, you shouldn't think of them as a trophy or status symbol. Granted, other people will notice her beauty, and may look at you differently because of it, but that should never be your reason for wanting to go out with her.

A lot of beautiful women actually run into an interesting problem. Conventional wisdom says that pretty women shouldn't have any problem finding men that want to go out with them. But the reality is that a lot of them find men are afraid to approach them because of their beauty–the very thing that's suppose to get men flocking to them.

Understanding this can help you when dating beautiful women. They are, first and foremost, people too. Just be yourself and try not to treat her as though she is someone that is out of your league. Why? Because that's the other problem pretty women run into. Men overacting and laying the charm on extra heavy, all in the hopes that the woman will enjoy the extra attention. But a lot of the time pretty woman get tired of the phoniness, and ache to find a guy who will just be himself around her.

Now, let's make one thing perfectly clear. Treating them normal and being yourself doesn't mean you should go out of your way to be rude or to ignore her. You would be surprised at how many so-called "relationship experts" will tell you to be a jerk towards beautiful women. Sorry, but that just doesn't cut it! They are people; simple. Just don't play games and treat her as you want her to treat you.

Keep in mind that attractive women often feel that they are being hit on more than other women. So, when it comes to dating beautiful women, forget all of the clever pick up lines. Trust me, they have heard them before. Besides, the very fact that you're using a line shows her that you're trying too hard and that you're just like every other guy who has used a line on her.

Finally, be confident when dating beautiful women. Too many men feel like they're not worthy, but if she has agreed to a date or two, then it proves that she thinks you are indeed worthy, and that's what really counts.

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In today's world it can be really difficult for men in the dating scene. We guys are raised with the notion that showing excess emotion is a weakness, and that as men we must be strong and composed. This is all well and dandy, but it can make properly expressing ourselves difficult.

The best dating advice out there is that you need to properly communicate. This is why we have trouble with dating though, we have trouble properly communicating. So to help with that are some basic tips you should try to follow to make your dating experience a little better.

1. Look good. First impressions mean a lot, and if you make a bad one it can haunt you for a long time, or maybe even cut your relationship down before it even gets off the ground. So you need to make sure to properly groom yourself and look as presentable as can be. Making a good first impression makes the road to forming a relationship a whole lot easier.

2. Romance. Romance is all well and good, and a lot of women like it. You just have to remember not to go overboard. You are not lovers, you are not even friends yet, so do not think you can act like you are. Instead, take her to places where you can talk and get to know one another. The first step in the road to any good relationship is making friends first. After all, your girlfriend or wife should also be your friend.

3. Conversational skills. Pretty much all dating advice out there will tell you that communication is imperative. Without that, how is anyone suppose to know what you think or how you feel? Having bad conversation skills is nothing to be ashamed of, it is merely something you need to overcome. The key to a conversation is that it is a give and take. You need to talk, but you also need to listen and give them a chance to talk. If only one person is doing all the talking, that is not a conversation, it's a monologue.

4. Be a gentleman. This is probably the most important tip. In today's society most forms of chivalry are long dead, and women do not expect or want it in a lot of forms. It can often be viewed as offensive and demeaning. But do not let that trick you into thinking that you should act any less of a man. As a man you need to treat them with respect and dignity, and always be polite. Even if you find yourself not attracted to the woman, you must treat her to a wonderful evening.

Going on dates and finding love is difficult for everyone, men and women alike. But with these basic tips it can make your search a lot easier. Just remember that you will not find your soul mate right off the bat, and that you need to keep looking until you can find someone who can truly make you happy.

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When most of us think of the word romance, we think of love, making love and having an incredible connection with another person. When most of us wonder how we can add romance to our relationship, we often think of sexy nights filled with lingerie, soft music and wine. But is that it? Not that there is anything wrong with this version, but is that the only option we have? Personally, I don't think so.

I'm not sure if I could be considered the most romantic person around. I think I am, but who knows? To me, romance is about a deep connection with someone else. A connection that goes beyond just the lingerie and wine.

I think that anytime two people who love each other are able to spend time together doing activities that they both enjoy, that can be a form of romance. True, it isn't necessarily the type of romance that gets written about but that doesn't mean it can't be romantic for the couple.

If you think about it, the good memories that we hold throughout our lifetime involve two major themes: doing something we enjoy and/ or being with someone we love. When you combine the something you enjoy with the someone you love, I think that is perfect and I think that can be an (often overlooked) way to add romance to any relationship.

Of course, the important distinction here is that is has to be something you both enjoy. It's not really romantic if you want to go hunting and your partner hates to hunt. Even if your partner agrees to go, the romance will be lost on her.

So, pick these "non traditional" romantic gestures carefully. Don't delude yourself into believing that your partner enjoys a certain activity when you know darn well, even if you don't want to admit it to yourself, that they don't.

Another aspect of something that is romantic, again in my opinion, is something out of the ordinary. Years ago I knew a couple (to be honest they were a little weird) who liked to brag that they had sex every single night.

As expected, the husband bragged about it but when I asked his wife if she really enjoyed it that much she said no, it had become more of a habit and wasn't really anything hot and exciting. She said it became a little like brushing her teeth every night before bed… it became routine.

So, whatever romantic gesture(s) you like to do remember that if anything is done too often it becomes routine. Something that is done often will quickly lose it's intensity and can become if not boring than at least not nearly as exciting.

So, if you want to add romance to your relationship, don't restrict yourself to the traditional things (not that there is anything wrong with those, but you want to keep things interesting too). Think about you and your partner and the things you both love to do. Then set up a time when you can do those things together. That can be enormously romantic.

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