The question of how to get a guy back isn't always an easy one to answer. Sure, there are some basic things you can do, but it takes more than just a flirtatious wink and smile to get an ex back. That's part of the problem…if you're asking how to get a guy back, then that means you must have went through a break up at some point. So, with that in mind, here are some tips you can use to help win him back for good.
Before we go any further, there is one thing that needs to be cleared up. No matter the circumstances surrounding the break up, both of you were at fault to some extent. That means you can't blame everything on him, and you can't blame everything on yourself…and he can't do those things in regard to his side of things either. This is important to understand because it will help you to solve the problems that led to the break up instead of just sweeping them under the rug.
So, not to get too philosophical, but because you both had a role in the break up, you need to be willing to forgive. This works both ways. However, you should forgive because it's the right thing to do, not because you are expecting to be forgiven in return. Yes, that's what you would prefer, but there's no guarantee it will happen. But that doesn't excuse you from forgiving your ex.
A lot of people seem quick to give advice on how to get a guy back, but very few (if any) will fill you in on the secret of forgiveness. Once you have let go of the grudge you will feel like a new person, as though a burden has been lifted. Again, it's vital that you do this for the right reasons, otherwise it could backfire. Alright, you get the idea: forgiveness is important…but it's only the beginning.
You need to understand that while you may be ready to move forward with working things out, your ex may not. That's okay, you're both different people. If your ex boyfriend needs more time, then give it to him.
Once both of you are ready to start talking about what has happened, and the possibility of moving forward, it's vital that you keep your cool. Chances are that even though you have forgiven him, some of those bad memories will have to be dealt with. The key to doing this without ruining your chances of getting back together is to only bring up those things that could affect your future. In other words, have the final goal in mind and fix those things need fixing, and forgive or forget those things that don't.
Doing these steps will not always be easy, but they will put you on the right path to get a guy back. And as long as you know that's possible, you will have the drive you need to make it happen.
