If your relationship has taken a turn for the worse and you just don't seem to have any spark left then perhaps it's time you became more affectionate with your girlfriend before she calls things off. A new relationship is always full of affection and fun but as you become more comfortable with one another the 'new relationship' effort wears off. When this honeymoon period is over if you're not careful the relationship can go stale.
The honeymoon period being over isn't a bad thing because now you are comfortable with one another and can really get to know each other better. This is the period when you start acting more natural and not just trying to impress each other all the time. This is when you get to know the 'real' person you are dating and that is great!
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If you're not careful you can forget to show affection altogether and then the spark in the relationship dies. Women love affection and so if you're relationship is showing signs of going stale you need to ask yourself if you are giving her enough affection.
Being more affection with your girlfriend is not difficult, it's just a matter of paying attention when she speaks, showing an interest in what she says and does and contribute to conversation. When she wants to talk to you, put the newspaper down so she knows that you are listening and that you care about what she is saying.
It is also important that if you have a bad day at work or have any issues in the relationship that you talk to her about them. It makes her feel important when you share your feelings with her and talk to her about anything that is troubling you. She will feel even more connected if you keep eye contact when she is talking to you and even hold her hand or put your hand on her knee.
Other ways that you can show your girlfriend more affection is to hold hands when you are walking down the street or along the beach. Send her flowers every now and then for no reason and just tell her that you love her. Men seem to have trouble saying the 'L' word a lot but it really makes a woman feel special when she is told that she is loved.
Affection doesn't need to be expensive and it certainly isn't hard. Even small gestures like asking her how her day was and giving her a smile when she gets home from work will mean a lot to her. Take her out to dinner from time to time or perhaps cook her a meal.
Some men mistake affection for spending time with her but doing so with their own happiness in mind and not hers. For example, instead of taking her out for a nice quiet dinner you take her to the pub for dinner where you know all your mates will be hanging out. Or perhaps instead of walking up behind her and wrapping your arms around her and kissing her neck, you wrap your arms around her to grab certain parts of her body without her permission. Although this may seem playful or sexy to you, it may not to her. Grabbing her in intimate parts of the body in a sleazy way or even when she's just not in the mood will make her feel degraded.
So when you are trying to become more affectionate to your girlfriend make sure that the affection is targeted at her and at making her happy. Just make her feel special and loved and you will soon see that spark return to your relationship.
