As a guy, trying to find true love can be a challenge. We're brought up in a society where we are taught to be strong and independent, and be the foundation for any relationship. Showing too many emotions makes us look weak, but this can make it difficult to truly connect with someone. This is why so many men out there struggle during the dating process.
Sometimes it can appear as if a man is cold and insensitive because they might handle rejection by seemingly ignoring it and moving on. But often times this is merely a defense mechanism to keep us from getting hurt. Even those who get a lot of dates and meet a lot of women can feel lonely because they do not get the kind of relationship they are hoping for.
In order to overcome these hurdles there are a lot of tips out there designed to help a guy out. But trying to keep all of that straight can be a difficult task, and a lot of tips conflict with one another. So knowing what to do can be hard. To that end it is best to just stick to the basics.
1. Appearance. In a perfectly world dating would not revolve around your first impression, nor would it matter how you looked. However that is not the world we live in, and how you look on a first date can make or break any budding relationship you may have. Make sure to take care of yourself and present yourself as you should, where you go has some say over what you wear, but you should always be well groomed and look the best you can for the situation.
2. Romance. Now days we think we should be all super romantic and try to connect with our soul mate right off the bat. But as the saying goes, slow and steady wins the race. Before you can determine whether or not you two are the perfect match for each other, you have to find out if you even like each other. Being friends is the first step to being lovers.
3. Conversation. A lot of people, both men and women, lack good conversational skills. We are either really shy while dating or we might prattle on about things endlessly. The only way you can truly get to know each other is by talking, so when you go on your date it is important to go somewhere that allows you to have a good conversation. Also make sure your conversation is a good back and forth, you need to listen as much as you talk.
4. Always be a gentleman. Chivalry in a lot of respects is dead, and in many occasions can be somewhat offensive to women. But that does not mean you shouldn't always be a gentleman. We guys no longer have to throw our coats on a puddle, or open doors for her. But we should still be kind, and respectful. Even if the date is not proceeding as you would like, and even if you may not feel any attraction to the woman, you should still remain polite until the very end.
