If you're at the point in your marriage where you're looking for help to stop your divorce, then you've reached a very sad point in your life. The good news though is that as long as you have the desire to save your marriage, then it can be done.
However, what you must be aware of is that for many in your situation, it is not necessarily going to be a straightforward thing to achieve. When you set out to stop your divorce you have to convince your spouse that whatever the problems within your marriage, they can be solved.
Now, if you haven't already done so, you need to sit down with your spouse and tell them exactly how you feel. I mean are you sure your spouse knows you want to save your marriage? Take nothing for granted, if you haven't told your spouse, they might not know.
If you've made mistakes that you deeply regret, the first thing you have to do is put your cards on the table regarding those mistakes. Perhaps you cheated on your spouse? Or you just never had any time for your spouse? Whatever the mistakes, you now have to convince your spouse that you understand why it was such a terrible mistake and you now have clear and viable plans about how you, as an individual, and then the two of you, also as a couple, can get past this.
To stop your divorce you might have to seek outside help. If you and your spouse can sit down together and talk things through to a point where you can reconcile, then great. But if you feel the only positive way forward is to seek professional outside help, then you, as the person who wants to save the marriage, must seek out that help. Once you have the details present them to your spouse and this will act as concrete proof that you are serious, focused and committed to saving your marriage.
There is a chance that your spouse will not be interested in anything you have to say regarding saving the marriage. If this happens try not to react in a negative way. Only you and your spouse know the personal situation of your marriage, but be honest with yourself. Has there been chance, after chance given to you to stop your divorce and those chances have not been? Does your spouse feel as though things will never improve? If that is the case, then your best bet is to let the marriage go for now and give your spouse time.
Hold on to the hope that in the future, time will have healed whatever problems there are in your marriage and then you'll be able to use different strategies to rekindle your marriage.