Is it a good idea to resort to gift giving for apology? Well, that depends on a few other factors. In this article I will go over some of the good and bad sides of using a gift as an apology.
I do think that every situation, couple and apology is different. For that reason it can be hard to figure out the absolute best way to apologize for every given situation and the people involved. But there are some good guidelines that will help in most situations.
As I have already mentioned, one of the first things to consider when gift giving for apology is what type of gift you should give.
If you made a mistake and you want to offer an apology by giving your partner a gift, what should you give them? Should it be expensive, cute, simple? That will depend on the personality of the person you will be apologizing to as well as the severity of the mistake.
Giving someone a stuffed animal as an apology for something fairly minor such as forgetting to pick something up from the store may be just fine.
But it would seem really offensive to do something so silly for a major offense such as infidelity, for example.
So in this case the apology must fit the crime.
Also, what kind of things does your honey enjoy? Try to give a gift that they would really like. And, for heavens sake, don't give a gift as part of your apology that is really something you would like!
That is one thing that men tend to do a lot of; they give gifts they would want and not give a gift that their partner would necessarily want. I don't have room in this article on that issue, but just don't do it.
So, if your partner isn't a big fan of lingerie, or jewelry or perfume, don't give her that as an apology gift.
All that so called "apology" says is that "I screwed up and I don't have a clue who you are or what you like because I am too self absorbed to pay attention to you", that's not really the "apology" message you want to send.
So make sure you give a gift that your partner will really like. Just take a look at the types of things they buy for themselves.
If your guy comes home all smiles because he just got tickets for a game or concert or a new power tool, that is likely something he would enjoy.
If your girl comes in with a new purse or shoes that is likely something she would enjoy. It's really not that hard to figure out, the signs are there, just look for them.
One last thing, giving a gift or having a special night out as an apology should only be part of the apology. If you really want to get out of the dog house, say the words "I'm sorry".
Don't expect the gift to do it all, be willing to also offer a sincere apology for the hurt you caused whether it was a big hurt or a little hurt.
Gift giving for apology is good, but it will only take you so far. Use it appropriately and along with a spoken apology and you will show your partner how much you really care.