Dating Tips For Women-Find The Right Person

Finding the right person to spend time with is often a tricky thing to do. The dating scene may, thanks to the internet, give us new options, but some things never change. With that in mind, here are some proven dating tips for women.

Dating Tips for Women #1 – Don't talk about your previous relationships.

Yes, you can talk about past flings eventually, but you shouldn't bring them up too soon. Generally speaking, the longer you wait, the better. Ignoring this tip is not a smart move. The reason it's such a problem is that the guy you are dating wants to talk about his favorite subject…him! He will consider any time you spend talking about your ex as a signal that you are less interested in him, and more interested in the men from your past. The purpose of dating is to get to know each other, so take some time to get to know the new guy in your life before you start talking about past loves.

Dating Tips for Women #2 – Just be yourself.

Dating makes people anxious. You want to give a good first impression, and you definitely don't want to say or do anything stupid. Unfortunately, a lot of women will overcompensate by pretending to be somebody they're not. The problem here is that the real you will come out sooner or later. Not only that, if a guy doesn't like you for who you are, then it's a waste of your time and his to keep stringing him along some phony story.

Dating Tips for Women #3 – Don't think about the future before it's time.

Not every guy is afraid of commitment, but they may be scared off if on your first date you start talking about marriage, having kids and your ticking biological clock. Even if he brings up the subject first, try to not give any definitive answer as he may be testing you. If you have a great date, then be careful to avoid fantasizing about how wonderful your future together is going to be. You may have dreamed about living the fairy tale since you were a young girl, but don't let that dream prevent you from taking advantage of reality.

Dating Tips for Women #4 – Take compliments gracefully.

Few things are more irritating to a guy than women who instantly downplay a compliment. It takes a lot of courage for a guy to say he likes your hair, so don't respond by telling him how awful you think your hair is. Not only will he feel like you are shooting him down, but hew will also think you have low self-esteem or just like to be contrary; none of these things will endear you to him.

While there are tons of other dating tips for women, these are a good start. If you follow them, you will greatly increase your odds of having a second date after enjoyable date.


 

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Dating Beautiful Women – Can Be A Challenge

No doubt about it, dating is challenging. You have to get up the nerve to ask a woman out, then you have to figure out where to have the date, you have to be on your best behavior (what will you say and do?), and do it all in a way that comes across as confident and natural (no matter how you may be feeling on the inside). A lot of guys have an even harder time when it comes to dating beautiful women. But, as you will see, it doesn't have to be difficult.

Rule #1 is that you should never treat any woman as an object, and that includes pretty women. In other words, while you may be attracted to their physical appearance, you shouldn't think of them as a trophy or status symbol. Granted, other people will notice her beauty, and may look at you differently because of it, but that should never be your reason for wanting to go out with her.

A lot of beautiful women actually run into an interesting problem. Conventional wisdom says that pretty women shouldn't have any problem finding men that want to go out with them. But the reality is that a lot of them find men are afraid to approach them because of their beauty–the very thing that's suppose to get men flocking to them.

Understanding this can help you when dating beautiful women. They are, first and foremost, people too. Just be yourself and try not to treat her as though she is someone that is out of your league. Why? Because that's the other problem pretty women run into. Men overacting and laying the charm on extra heavy, all in the hopes that the woman will enjoy the extra attention. But a lot of the time pretty woman get tired of the phoniness, and ache to find a guy who will just be himself around her.

Now, let's make one thing perfectly clear. Treating them normal and being yourself doesn't mean you should go out of your way to be rude or to ignore her. You would be surprised at how many so-called "relationship experts" will tell you to be a jerk towards beautiful women. Sorry, but that just doesn't cut it! They are people; simple. Just don't play games and treat her as you want her to treat you.

Keep in mind that attractive women often feel that they are being hit on more than other women. So, when it comes to dating beautiful women, forget all of the clever pick up lines. Trust me, they have heard them before. Besides, the very fact that you're using a line shows her that you're trying too hard and that you're just like every other guy who has used a line on her.

Finally, be confident when dating beautiful women. Too many men feel like they're not worthy, but if she has agreed to a date or two, then it proves that she thinks you are indeed worthy, and that's what really counts.


 

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Dating A Woman With Kids- Is It For You

Dating on its own can make a person nervous but dating a woman with kids has a whole lot more involved. You don't only need to be concerned about whether the woman likes you but you also want to make an impression on her kids. The relationship is not just between you and the woman but it is also between you and her children.

Women without children will usually find it much easier to find dates than a single mom would. In fact, there are many men that will not date a woman because she has children and they don't want the issues that children can bring. Because single mom's can find it difficult to get a date they may be more eager to date someone that is interested in them. You do need to remember though that she needs to give her children the time and attention that they need which means she may have less time for dating. You will need to work around her children's needs as her kids will always be her first priority.

Many single mothers also work full time, and then of course they have the kid's sports and other after school activities to attend, so there isn't often much time left for a social life. You may need to be prepared to see her when she can fit you in around her hectic schedule, don't expect to call her and tell her you are on your way around to take her out to dinner – your dates will need to be planned and scheduled in advance. It may be that she has one free night a week and this may be the only night that she can go out on a date with you.

A good mother won't want to bring a succession of men into her kid's lives so she may not want to introduce you to her children until the relationship has developed a bit further. Her kids are her priority and the most important thing in the world to her and she doesn't want them getting hurt if a man was to come into their life and then leave. She will only want you to get to know her kids if she feels secure in your future together so you may be dating for six months or so before you get to meet the kids. Not all children will be happy with their mother dating someone other than their father so it could be a struggle for a little while to overcome such obstacles.

Even though these are not your children, if you intend to have a long term relationship with their mother then you need to get to know them well and build a good relationship with them. Younger children are reasonably easy to build a relationship with if you spend time playing with them or throwing the ball to them, while older children will be a little more difficult.

Most children will carry a hope that their parents will get back together and they may see you as a threat to that fantasy. There will be some resistance to you having a role in their mom's life. Then there are other obstacles like having authority over the children. Although they are not your children you will still need some authority over them. They may not like that at first and tell you that you are not their dad and so cannot tell them what to do. You should discuss authority with their mother as she needs to feel comfortable with your authority over her children too.

You may want to spend some time on weekends going on family outings and getting to know the children better. Going to the park, swimming pool or the beach can all help you to have a good time and enjoy yourself getting to know one another. Family outings can be more expensive than just dating a single woman without children.

The sexual relationship with a single mom can also be a bit tricky as the woman may be reluctant to have you staying over as she doesn't want to send the wrong message to her children. She may also find it difficult to stay over your place if she can't get anyone to look after her kids.

When dating a woman with kids you need to be prepared that it will be much different to dating a woman without kids. Her children are her priority and you need to understand and accept to have a good relationship with her. You also need to keep in mind that you may become quite attached to her children and if you breakup with this woman you don't only lose her, but you lose her children too, which can be quite heartbreaking.


 

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Become A Confident Girlfriend

To be a confident girlfriend you first need to be a confident woman. Although appearing insecure and frightened may appeal to some men because they can then be the protective one, but most men don't like insecure women. When a woman is insecure she will constantly worry about losing her man and will become very possessive off him. She may constantly question him and want to know where he is and what he is doing all the time and a man will soon become tired of this. Instead, it is best to be confident, smart and independent and he will be proud to be your man.

There are men that are bullies and treat their girlfriends badly and usually this is because the man is insecure. They tried to hide their insecurities by being in control of the relationship and the woman. They think that if they are in control then they are more of a man. If you have a man like this then he may not react well to your change if you become independent and confident but if a man is like this then you need to ask yourself if he is really the man you want to spend your life with.

If you feel that you are insecure and get very jealous then there are some questions that you need to ask yourself so you can become more confident.

Why are you so jealous? Is there a reason to be jealous? Has your boyfriend been unfaithful and caused you to lose trust in him? Does your boyfriend flirt with other girls just to make you jealous? Have you been cheated on by a previous boyfriend? Or are you just an insecure person and always have been?

You need to ask yourself these questions and find out the reason for your jealousy and insecurity. Only when you find the reason can you fix it. You may need to see a counselor for a while to work through your insecurities and learn to be confident and happy with your life and your relationship.

When you know the reason for your insecurities, whether they are from something that has happened in the past or whether they are from something your boyfriend is doing, when you know the reason you can then combat your insecurities and become more confident in yourself.

In some cases you may have been confident in the past but for some reason have become insecure within your relationship. This can happen if you and your boyfriend are on different levels when it comes to relationships. You may feel that you love him more than he loves you or you need him more than he needs you. If you have these feelings then it is natural that you will begin to feel insecure.

These insecurities can deepen the problem and when he knows you are insecure he may begin to love you or need you less. Sometimes it may be a big misconception that you believe you love him more than he loves you and if you talk to him about it you might find that it isn't the case. If you can learn to be confident again then you will once again be the confident person he first fell in love with and this can bring back the spark and the love in the relationship.


 

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When Moving On Break Up Is Hard To Do

If you are thinking about moving on, break up is quite hard to do. Do you dread the conversation that you have to have to tell your partner that the relationship is over? Or if it is your partner that is approaching you with the break up conversation you may try to distract him from the conversation to avoid it. But if a relationship is not working out anymore then there comes a time when you need to call it quits and move on.

This time is actually a good time to evaluate your life and your relationship and see if there is anything that you can do to improve them. It is difficult to know how to handle a break up and sometimes it can be a clean break while other times it really isn't what you actually want. If you both sit down and talk about the relationship and what the problem is then perhaps you can work through the problems and save the relationship.

Break ups can actually be avoided if you can catch the problem in time. If you find out what it is in the relationship that is going wrong then you can nip the problem in the bud before it forces the relationship to end. You may even need to reach a point of discussing a break up and whether that is the best option or whether you can work out your problems together and build a good, solid relationship. If you can figure out the problems and work at them then you may prevent your partner from breaking up with you and moving on.

When you are having a break up conversation and trying to salvage this relationship then the conversation needs to include the following:

* Ask your partner why they are unhappy in the relationship

* Ask your partner if you can work together to solve the issues and save the relationship

* Actively listen to what your partner says so that you can understand how he is feeling and what you can do to improve or change things in the relationship.

Once you know what is going wrong in your relationship then you can take the necessary steps to change the issues. Of course this needs to be a joint effort with both of you putting in an effort to rectify any problems and get your relationship back on track. Often a lack of communication is the biggest problem in a relationship and a couple doesn't communicate until it is too late. As soon as you begin to see any cracks in the relationship this is the time to start talking about any issues and resolving them.

By talking about what is going wrong you can then work at fixing it and prevent that break up from happening.


 

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The Different Stages Of A Relationship

When you first start dating someone all you think about if having fun, making a good impression and getting to know the person. The last thing on your mind is the future stages of a relationship. You go on the first date not even know if it will proceed to a second so you just concentrate on the moment and not on the future.

Once you move past the first date onto the second you can then think that possibly there may be a future with this person. Then when you move past the first few days and get to know the person a little more then you will get an idea whether you think you have a potential future with them. It's at this point that understanding the different stages of a relationship can help you see where you are and where you are heading and you will get to know what to expect next.

The first stage of a relationship is the honeymoon stage and this is the stage that many couples try to recapture at some point later in the relationship. Some people are addicted to the honeymoon stage and when it's over they will break up with their partner and move on to find someone else so they can have that honeymoon stage over and over again.

The honeymoon stage is exciting and fun. You tend to go out a lot together, complement each other, learn all about each other. You are two new people that have a lot to learn about one another and you will have a lot of fun doing so.

During the honeymoon stage you like everything about the other person and you think they can do no wrong. The honeymoon stage can last up to a year, a year full of fun, exciting moments that you will remember forever.

Then the honeymoon stage is over and the next stage may see a struggle for who has the most control or power in the relationship. During this power battle many relationships can fall apart, but those who get through this stage will come out strong. The things that you once thought were cute about your partner may now start to annoy you and you no longer find everything they do so perfect.

You may even try to change your partner to some extent to be more like what you really want in a partner, or vice versa. You will begin to notice each other's flaws and try to change them. To get through this stage of the relationship you need to recognize each other's flaws and accept them for what they are.

Then we have the understanding and acceptance stage. You will reach a point where you either accept the person for who they are or you realize this is not the person you want to be with. You have made it through the power struggle and you have resigned yourself to the fact that you cannot change the other person, so now you need to decide whether you can accept them as they are. If you can't accept the other person with their flaws then you may need to end the relationship and move on.

If you decide to end the relationship and move on you will find that a break up at this stage of the relationship is usually very amicable because there is no power struggle going on. You are simply deciding whether you are with the right person or not and you can accept that decision.

The last stage of the relationship is commitment. Once you realize that the person you are with does have flaws and you have given up trying to change them you can then accept them and be happy. Once you make that decision to understand the other person and accept them for who they are you can then commit to them. There may be times during the relationship that you revisit the power struggle stage for some reason, but if you have reached the commitment stage then you can usually work through the power struggle again.


 

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Still In Love With My Ex – Tips That Might Help To Get Them Back

If you are saying to yourself I am still in love with my ex, there is help out there to find ways to get your ex back. If your relationship ended because of something stupid there is a chance he still has feelings for you, too. If that something stupid was a misunderstanding that snowballed out of control and the only way out for the both of you was to break up then just apologize. If both of you need to apologize then all you have to do is to be the bigger person and make that first apology.

Another way to get him back is to use the technology we have available to us today. If you do not feel like calling him or are too embarrassed, then email or text him. If he responds then you are off to a good start. Set up a place to meet and have lunch or coffee and just talk. Do not start by getting all into what went wrong within your relationship, just talk and keep things friendly.

While you are apart though, it would be a good idea to try to improve yourself in some way. Once he sees that you have made some of the changes that need to be made then you may inspire him to do the same and he may even ask for tips on how you are making the changes you are making. If he does ask then you will have more things to talk about and maybe can find things that the both of you are interested in, too. He may even say to himself that I am still in love with my ex and want to explore the possibility of getting back together.

When wanting to get back with an ex, it can be very helpful to consider what went wrong and who screwed up. This isn't about whose fault it was, it's about finding the solutions to the problems that led to the break up of your relationship in the first place. Once you have done that the rest can fall into place seamlessly.

No matter who was at fault more than likely you both made some mistakes and can benefit from making some changes. This is the best way to start. It can allow you to not only get back with your ex but you will both have a much better chance of making things work if you do reconcile. It can make you both more mindful of the other's feelings.

It is also very important for you to spend time doing the things you like to do and spending time with the people you enjoy spending time with. All of this will allow you some breathing room and time to deal with your own issues. It will also make the time seem to go a little faster while you are making changes.

Once you've worked things out you should talk to your ex. There are quite a few ways you can do this: face to face, email, text, instant message, phone call, mutual friends, hand written letter, taking out an ad in the paper, follow them on twitter, message them on facebook. You could even try skywriting but that is kind of old school. Stick with the more popular methods or you may just get laughed at.

It doesn't matter what method you use, if you follow these ways to get you ex back and do everything you can do to ensure your relationship will be strong this time around, he will most likely be saying I'm still in love with my ex, too.


 

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Should You Use Christian Marriage Counseling-Could Be Good For Some Couples

If you are a Christian and you find that your marriage is in trouble then you may want to consider using Christian marriage counseling. This service isn't for everyone and will depend on how deeply religious you are as to whether you will find it appropriate for your situation. Christian marriage counseling can make a big difference and may help to save your marriage.

There is the option of regular marriage counseling for anyone that is having difficulty with their marriage. This type of counseling is for anyone, regardless of religion, to use when they find their marriage is in trouble. This type of counseling will focus on any problems within the marriage including how the partners treat one another. Christian marriage counseling also focuses on these things but it also has an emphasis on prayer and turning to God to help you through this difficult time.

This type of counseling works really well for some people but it's not for everyone. There are many Christian couples who may not even benefit from this type of counseling, depending on both partners attitude toward religion, church and God.

Some Christians have such great faith in God that they will spend a lot of time praying, knowing that God will point them in the right direction and help them through tough times. Other people will not rely on God to fix everything for them but feel that God helps those who help themselves and they will pray for guidance but know that they must also make the effort to fix the problem. If a husband and wife have different views on such issues then Christian marriage counseling may actually give them more conflict.

If the counseling focuses on prayer and miracles then the partner that believes a person needs to put an effort in to make things happen may not be as happy with the counseling. If the counseling focuses on action and using prayer for guidance then the partner that wants a miracle through prayer may not be happy with it.

If your marriage is having trouble already the last thing you want to do is add more conflict. If the counseling does not use an approach that both partners are comfortable with then it is probably best to avoid it.

This is not to say you should avoid Christian marriage counseling, but you should find out what kind of approach it takes before deciding whether to go ahead with it or not. You can always go to one session to get a feel for what it's like and then make your decision. You should agree with each other that if one of you is not happy with the counseling because it goes against what you believe, that you do not continue with it.

Sometimes Christian marriage counseling can be old fashioned and work from the beliefs of the Old Testament of the Bible that give women little or no rights. This type of counseling will often put the blame of marriage problems onto the woman. Some religions still believe that women should be subservient to men just as they were in Biblical times. They believe the man only has a share in failure if he doesn't respect the woman or doesn't praise her enough for her service and obedience. If a counseling service is given with these beliefs then this can damage the woman's self esteem and quite possibly make her more resentful.

With both secular and Christian marriage counseling you really need to find out the focus of the counseling and you need to feel comfortable with how they work. If you aren't comfortable with the counseling then stop going and find another one that may suit you better and make you both comfortable to work through your problems.


 

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Should You Try Relationship Counseling – You Bet

As far as counseling services go, relationship counseling is one of the more popular services. A large percentage of couples will go to relationship counseling at some stage in their life. Unfortunately many relationships fail and break ups occur without the couple really finding out what went wrong and how to fix it. Counselors that specialize in relationships can help you to overcome any problems that you are facing and have a stronger, happier relationship.

One fear that people have about counseling is that it may make them look like a failure that they need to see a counselor. Another fear is that counseling is a battle field where two partners blame each other and are just trying to win the battle with the counselor being the umpire. This isn't the case as counseling helps to develop communication within the relationship so that you can learn each other's needs and make some compromises if required. You can't fix a failing relationship by continually blaming each other, you need to be prepared to listen to what the other partner is saying and understand how they are feeling.

When a couple has counseling they are in a controlled environment and they find that they can discuss matters without getting into a yelling match like they might do at home. The counselor will set guidelines for the conversation that will allow the couple to talk calmly to one another. Some counselors will help with the discussion by asking questions and getting involved with the discussion, while others will be more of a mediator just sitting on the sidelines and letting the couple talk things through themselves.

Different approaches work for different couples while some respond well to talking themselves with a mediator supervising and others respond better to a guided discussion. When a conversation is guided then it shouldn't get out of hand and turn into a big argument. Counseling really can help couples to understand one another better and solve any issues that are tearing apart their relationship.

The first thing you will use counseling for is to address the issues that are threatening to tear apart the relationship. When you become stressed and emotional it can be difficult to see the problem clearly and often both you and your partner will look at the problem from your own view. You don't understand the other person's point of view and this is where counseling can help. Counseling will help you to identify any issues and work through them together. It will help you to develop an understanding of the other person's feelings and how the issues are affecting them.

Some people, men in particular, thing that relationship counseling won't help them but they are very wrong as any relationship that is showing signs of trouble can be helped by some counseling. Counseling will help to improve communication which is a huge factor in having a good relationship.

If you have good communication within your relationship then you may not need counseling to help you resolve your issues. But if you are among the high percentage of people without such good communication then counseling can really benefit you and your relationship.


 

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Separation Relationships Do They Work Or Is It Just Putting Off The Inevitable Are

Once you get to the stage where divorce is on the cards, you might want to consider trying a separation. Relationships that try separation before they opt for a more permanent choice of divorce or permanent breakup, often succeed in repairing themselves in the long run.

This is because with separation relationships, the couple involved give themselves the benefit of a timeout and they effectively take the heat out of a tense situation. What this means is that in the heat of a pending breakup there is a chance for both parties to leave the scene, calm down and weigh up exactly what they want.

Without this separation there is every chance that the relationship would end straightaway. With separation, relationships there is every chance of saving their relationship because there are limited chances of making rash decisions that may very quickly be regretted.

However, the key to success, when considering a separation, is to set some ground rules. Make sure you sit down with your partner and iron out some detailed plans and goals. Without these plans and goals you run the risk of getting nowhere.

Some issues that are worth thinking about involve finances, arrangements regarding any children that there may be, plans about whether the two of you will see each other and if so under what circumstances, and also what kind of help the two of you might consider seeking, in regards to saving your relationship.

What is also worth agreeing to, before a separation, is whether the two of you will date other people. This is important because one of you might think that it is implicit that this will not happen, while the other might think of themselves as a free agent and free to do whatever they want with whomever they want. Whether you believe your spouse will date other people or not, this detail should be expressly ironed out before a separation is agreed.

Above all for separation relationships to work the two of you should agree how long this state will continue. It is pointless leaving the separation open ended because you could find that your relationship has drifted and the two of you have no idea how to get back on track. Agree a time frame, a few weeks, a few months, whatever you're comfortable with. Also factor in the possibility of extending the time frame. That way if you both feel you need more time or less time, then that can be easily factored in.

Without a doubt separation relationships have been used successfully to save relationships.


 

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