Bad Break Up Take Time To Heal

If you have been the victim of a bad break up keep in mind that you need to let yourself feel the pain of the situation. It's the best thing you can do for yourself not to mention the first step in learning to heal. Do not ignore how you are feeling. You are probably feeling things yiou haven't ever felt before and the feelings will change every day. If you ignore your feelings and pretend that everything is fine then you are only lying to yourself.

Do not worry about what your ex is doing, it doesn't matter. You just need to concentrate on yourself, especially after a bad break up. You may not feel like it but you should research online healthy ways to handle what you are feeling.

Getting over your ex will take some time. So, take your time to figure things out. After a while you will find that you hardly think about your ex any more. Make the time constructive and treat yourself to a makeover or to find a new hobby. Everyone has something they have always wanted to do, now is the time to do it. You will be well on your way to regaining a healthy state of mind.

Feel your pain, but put a time limit on it. Two weeks to a month should do it. Stay away from your ex and do not try to contact them. This will only be detrimental to your recovery. Another good idea is to read a self help book to regain some self esteem that was lost due to the break up.

If, after a while you still can't seem to get past the broken relationship, find a counselor to talk to. Someone who is neutral is best to help you get through this terrible time in your life. A good counselor can teach you techniques to use to ease your pain and start to be healthy again.
Sooner or later you will start to feel human again and find you are even able to laugh and feel happiness. I know you do not feel like it now but you will. I guarantee it.

Years ago I learned a technique that I am going to share with you now. It will seem silly at first but it is incredibly healing. First, go buy some marshmallows. Keep them someplace safe and the next time you feel the anger bubble to the top get them from the cupboard and open the bag. Take one out and throw them, one at a time, as hard as you can into the kitchen sink. As you throw each just let everything out. Yell as loud as you can. When you are done, I bet you won't be angry any more. You might even be laughing.

If you can laugh, you know you can handle just about anything life can hand you. You will survive a bad break up and realize that you are probably better off without your ex anyway.


 

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Advice For Average Guys Dating Beautiful Women

Have you asked a beautiful woman out on a date and are still in shock that she accepted? Men often put beautiful women on a pedestal which can make it a challenge for an 'average' guy to date one.

Dating beautiful women can really boost the ego of a man. He will be beaming with pride when he walks down the street with this beautiful woman by his side. Not only does he get an ego boost but he will also look pretty impressive to other guys. Dating a beautiful woman will also make the guy more desirable to other women.

An attractive woman can probably date any man she likes, even rich, powerful men. Because they are so appealing to men for their beauty they often develop some back habits that may make them less desirable as a long term partner. Many beautiful women are vain, manipulative and high maintenance.

If you aren't very wealthy and you are fairly average looking then it can be very challenging to date a beautiful woman. Here is some advice for dating beautiful women.

1. Stand out from the crowd. Beautiful women have men fawning over them all the time and they probably all look the same to her, so to get her attention you need to be different from the rest.

2. Don't treat her like a goddess – every other man is doing this so this is just average to her. You can differentiate yourself by not treating her like she is a goddess but act indifferently to her as though you aren't even attracted to her looks. It is the guys that appear not to be interested that she will want – this goes along the lines of people always wanting what they can't have. By ignoring her you are giving her a challenge that she will respond to.

3. Pay more attention to her 'plain Jane' friend. A beautiful woman won't understand why you would prefer her plain friend over her and she will get quite jealous. She won't want her friend getting all the attention and she will begin to flirt with you to win over your attention.

4. Instead of giving her compliments, tease her. Most other men will shower her with compliments, which she probably expects and is probably quite mundane to her now. If you light-heartedly tease her about any flaws then this is a different approach from what she is use to and she will respond well to that.

5. Don't just look at her outer beauty but also focus on her inner beauty. Don't spend all night staring at her like she is a goddess but instead show that you are interested in her as a person. Ask her questions about her life, her interests and hobbies. She will respond well to a man that she knows is interested in her as a person and not just for her beauty.

6. Don't call her too soon. Most men will probably call her the next day and she may even expect that. Wait a couple of days before calling her and she will respect you for it because you have impressed her so far with the above tips and now you are showing her even more that you are not desperate and just after her for her beauty.

7. Don't try to get her into bed on the first date. Of course you are sexually attracted to her and most likely all men she dates try to get her into bed straight away. By playing a little hard to get will spike her interest in you and also reinforce the fact that you like her as a person and not just a sex object.

You should remember that beauty is only skin deep and although it is great to date beautiful women, ultimately you also want a woman who is beautiful on the inside too. Take the time to get to know this woman and you may have found yourself a beautiful woman inside and out.


 

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3 Tips For How To Deal With Jealousy

Jealousy in a relationship can cause many problems but some people just have no idea how to deal with jealousy. Some people can become irrationally jealous of their partner to the extent that they don't want to let them out of their site. They don't like their partner to even talk to or look at another woman or man or they become extremely jealous. The partner on the receiving end of this jealousy may become tired of it, although flattering at first; it can cause a relationship to fall apart.

Here are three tips to help you learn how to deal with jealousy before it tears your relationship apart.

First you have to learn not to let the jealousy get to you. I know this is much easier said than done but there are ways to work on this so it becomes easier. If you don't trust your partner then jealousy is quite a normal response but you need to ask yourself why you don't trust him.

Has he cheated on you before? Do you know for a fact that he has cheated or do you just suspect it? Has he given you reason to suspect he is cheating? You need to find out whether you have a valid reason for not trusting him.

If you have no real reason for not trusting him then ask yourself why it is that you don't trust him. Do you have a fear of him cheating? Have you had someone cheat on your before so you distrust men in general? If he has never done anything to lose your trust then you need to work through why you don't trust him and learn to trust him.

If you have a valid reason not to trust him, perhaps he has cheated on you before, then you need to think about whether you should still be with him. If you have forgiven him for cheating and agreed to take him back then it can be difficult to regain that trust, but if you want the relationship to work then you need to work at rebuilding trust.

If you have been trying for a long time to rebuild the trust but just can't get past his cheating then perhaps this relationship has run its course and you should move on.

Whether you trust your partner or not, if he flirts with other people do you think he is going to cheat? If not then why are you jealous?

Jealousy is really only a response to a threat but if that threat becomes real and your partner flirts with someone and then cheats on you with that person, then the threat goes beyond jealousy and into betrayal.

The second way to help you deal with jealousy is to learn for your partner to flirt all they want and not let it get to you. Try to view flirting as a natural response that people have toward other people that they find attractive. Even when your partner flirts with other women he still chooses to be with you so you actually have no reason to be jealous of flirting knowing that you are the person he chooses.

The third way to deal with jealousy is to use it to your advantage in a relationship. If you do this though you do need to be careful that it isn't taken too far. Showing a little possessiveness is actually enjoyable for some people and can add a spark to a relationship.

By dealing with jealousy this way it doesn't make you angry but instead makes both of you happy. If jealousy is a real problem though then you do need to take steps to learn how to deal with jealousy more effectively.


 

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Tips For How To Be A Girlfriend

If you have had many failed relationships and just don't think you'll ever have a serious, long term relationship then this article might help you learn how to be a girlfriend. There are other options that you can take to help improve your current situation like seeing a counselor or reading books, but for now let's take a look at some tips that may help.

Firstly, you need to understand that there are two parties in a relationship and there needs to be some give and take. A relationship is not all about you and you can't always have things your own way. There needs to be compromise from both parties and if you find it isn't possible to compromise and you fight over everything then perhaps you are both too different to make a relationship work.

All relationships have disagreements so you can't expect everything to be perfect, there will be arguments from time to time. The idea is to talk about disagreements and make compromises so that everyone is satisfied with the result. This doesn't mean that you have to constantly give in and give him his own way all the time, it means that you both need to consider each others feelings and make compromises.

It isn't difficult to know how to be a girlfriend but it may take some effort to keep a relationship strong. The man in the relationship should also be willing to put in the effort required for a strong relationship. A relationship is a two way street and it isn't all your responsibility to make it work. If you are in a relationship with a man who thinks it is completely the woman's job to make things work, then that man probably isn't worth being in a relationship with.

It is also the man's responsibility to make a relationship work – it takes two to make a successful relationship. If one person in the relationship thinks that they always have to be right and always need to have things their own way, then the relationship will not last.

Most relationships start out great but after a while the initial romance wears off and both parties settle into their normal life and their normal habits and traits appear. This is fine if they are good traits and habits that the other party likes, but if one starts being selfish and insensitive then this is something you don't want to put up with. Life is too short to live in a relationship where one party is selfish and wants you to live life his way, you need to be happy and that may mean that you need to move on.

A good relationship will have good communication where the two partners can discuss anything and work together to resolve any situation. When you are with the right person you will know that they are right for you and they will want you to be as happy as they are.

A good relationship will have two people that care about each other and want each other to be happy. To be a good girlfriend you only need to be happy and care about your boyfriend's happiness. You need to be willing to make compromises and don't expect to have everything your own way all the time.

Compromise and good communication is all it takes to have a good relationship.


 

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Pros And Cons Of Dating Married Women-Yes Woman Have Affairs

You might be surprised to know that around 15 percent of married women will have an affair. Around 45 million American women are quite possibly playing around behind their husbands back. If you are interested in a married woman then you may want to know the pros and cons of dating married women.

One thing that many men say about dating married women is that the sex is amazing. If a woman is looking to have an affair she isn't usually looking for romance or love, but is looking for good sex. If their married is suffering in the sex department then this is what they are most likely looking for and so it can be the best sex you will ever have.

I believe the 'secrecy' element of dating someone that is married also adds some spice and excitement to the relationship. Sneaking away for a weekend or just a quick meet up at a hotel during your lunchbreak, these are risky moments that will add a certain 'rush' to the relationship.

One advantage that many men find is the fact that the woman doesn't expect anything more from you. Because the relationship is mostly about sex and the woman is not in a position to get involved any more than that, then she isn't going to expect you to take things further like many women do in normal relationships. She is most likely wanting to keep the affair very quiet so that her husband won't find out so she certainly won't be after any sort of commitment from you.

Dating married women can also be less expensive than dating a woman that is available. You may have to spend money on a hotel or motel if you want to meet at lunchtime, but you tend not to have all the usual dating expenses. She most likely won't want to go out for dinner at a restaurant incase you are seen and you won't need to buy her flowers or other gifts or she will have to explain to her husband who they are from.

The last advantage to dating married women is that you may then become more attractive to other women. Single women may think that there must be something special about you if a married woman is willing to risk her marriage for you.

Then of course we have the cons of dating married women.

The obvious disadvantage is if the woman's husband finds out about the affair. There are many different scenarios that can occur if this happens. The best scenario would be that her husband insists the affair ends immediately, of course you are then left on your own but at least that was the only consequence. Other results of this could be that the husband may leave his wife and she is then left on her own and may then possibly want a commitment from you. In some cases, husbands may even act out violently against either their wife or the man she is having an affair with, or both.

Another problem with dating a woman that is married is that you may fall in love with her. You may decide that you want more from the relationship but she may not be willing to give you any more. She might not be willing to end her marriage for you.

Lastly, there are the moral aspects of having an affair. You will risk breaking up the woman's family and this can be quite devastating if she has children. Even an affair that begins with the intention of not going any further can escalate and may end up having long term consequences for you, the woman and her family.

If you are considering dating a woman that is married, don't just consider the pros of dating married women but consider the cons also and ask yourself if it is really worth it.


 

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Learn To Be Nice To Your Girlfriend

If your relationship isn't as good as it once was then perhaps you need to learn how to be nice to your girlfriend. You can get tips from books and movies but the main thing that you need to know is to respect her and never take her for granted. Tell her often that you love her and let her know that you love having her in your life.

It is often the little things in life that count the most and this is the same in relationships. She will appreciate the little gestures that you make like giving her a foot rub after a hard day, meeting her at the door with a smile and a hug, cooking her a meal every now and then, help with the dishes or give her a shoulder rub.

If your girlfriend seems to be drifting away from you then have a good think about your relationship and what might be going wrong. Is there anything in particular that stands out that you might have done to cause things to go sour? If you know you have done something that has made her pull back from you then you need to take steps to fix the problem, otherwise it will only continue to get worse.

Have you been spending enough time with her and paying her enough attention? When relationships reach a certain stage you will find that you don't need to spend every minute of the day together the way you want to at the beginning, but you do need to continue to spend good quality time together. If you spend too much time out with the boys, or just playing video games, then you need to spend less time on those things and a bit more with your girlfriend. She wants to know that she is the most important thing in your life and not like she is coming second after your mates or your video games.

If you just have no idea whatsoever how to be nice to your girlfriend then it's time you started taking her more seriously and learning how to be nice to her. If you want to keep your girlfriend then learning how to be nice is essential.

A woman wants a man that pays her attention, shows her respect, shows her that he loves her and one that adores her. She wants a man that she can cuddle up with to watch a good movie and it is little things like cuddling and snuggling that will make a big difference.

If your girlfriend is upset about something she wants you to care about how she is feeling. You also need to learn to tell the difference between her venting about something and actually wanting your help about the situation. If you aren't sure then ask her if there is anything that you can do to help. If there is something that has upset her that you cannot fix then at least offer her a shoulder to cry on and just listen to her. She will feel so much better knowing that you care enough to listen to her feelings, even if there is nothing you can do about the problem.

There are lots of ways to be nice to your girlfriend but just remember to show her attention, affection and respect and you will do well.


 

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How To Rekindle Love With Your Ex Boyfriend – Stop The Desperation

Many girls when trying to win their ex back become quite desperate and this act of desperation will actually turn your ex away. Men don't like women that are desperate and needy so don't act in desperation but instead toughen up, plan what you are going to do and then take steps to rekindle that love. It won't be easy and you may even need to make some sacrifices but it your best chance at getting your boyfriend back.

Firstly you don't want to call or text your boyfriend for a little while you need to take time to clear your head and think things through. If you call him while you are upset and emotional you often say things you don't mean, don't make a lot of sense or sound desperate, so avoid calling him while you are still emotional. Take this time on your own to reflect about the relationship and what went wrong.

During this time you want to identify your needs and your wants and also work on figuring out what it is that he needs and wants. This self reflection time will help you to find yourself again and find what it is that you want in life and in a relationship. If your boyfriend did something that resulted in this breakup then you need to decide whether it is something that you can forgive him for. If you can't forgive him then you need to let go of any thoughts of getting back together and move on. If you can forgive him then you must do that so that you don't go back into the relationship holding a grudge.

Through this self reflection time look at how you act when you are around him. Are you clingy and possessive of him? Men like to be able to provide and protect their women but they don't like women that are overly possessive and paranoid so if you have been acting this way then you need to take steps to change that. Even when you are in a relationship you need some amount of individuality and you need to let him have that and you should also have it yourself. You need to take a good look at all the aspects of the relationship and see where it went wrong and where there is room for improvement.

When you are calm and are thinking clearly and have discovered yourself and what might have gone wrong in the relationship, and then you will be ready to talk to him. Call him and invite him out to one of your favorite places that you both enjoyed going to together. Talk about the things that you have in common and the things you liked to do together. Talk about the happy moments that you had together.

Then talk about what you have been doing and what you have been thinking about. Let him know that you have thought long and hard about the relationship and that you want to work together with him to overcome any problems that you had and make the relationship work.

If your ex boyfriend is already dating someone else then don't go chasing him, if he has moved on then perhaps you need to do the same. He might not be happy with this new person and realize he has made a mistake and call you, but if he doesn't then you need to let him go. Chasing him when he is happily dating someone else will just bring you more heartache.

It is hard work to win your ex back and you want to go into it prepared and ready to work at your relationship.


 

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How To Be More Affectionate With Your Girlfriend

If your relationship has taken a turn for the worse and you just don't seem to have any spark left then perhaps it's time you became more affectionate with your girlfriend before she calls things off. A new relationship is always full of affection and fun but as you become more comfortable with one another the 'new relationship' effort wears off. When this honeymoon period is over if you're not careful the relationship can go stale.

The honeymoon period being over isn't a bad thing because now you are comfortable with one another and can really get to know each other better. This is the period when you start acting more natural and not just trying to impress each other all the time. This is when you get to know the 'real' person you are dating and that is great!

But…..

If you're not careful you can forget to show affection altogether and then the spark in the relationship dies. Women love affection and so if you're relationship is showing signs of going stale you need to ask yourself if you are giving her enough affection.

Being more affection with your girlfriend is not difficult, it's just a matter of paying attention when she speaks, showing an interest in what she says and does and contribute to conversation. When she wants to talk to you, put the newspaper down so she knows that you are listening and that you care about what she is saying.

It is also important that if you have a bad day at work or have any issues in the relationship that you talk to her about them. It makes her feel important when you share your feelings with her and talk to her about anything that is troubling you. She will feel even more connected if you keep eye contact when she is talking to you and even hold her hand or put your hand on her knee.

Other ways that you can show your girlfriend more affection is to hold hands when you are walking down the street or along the beach. Send her flowers every now and then for no reason and just tell her that you love her. Men seem to have trouble saying the 'L' word a lot but it really makes a woman feel special when she is told that she is loved.

Affection doesn't need to be expensive and it certainly isn't hard. Even small gestures like asking her how her day was and giving her a smile when she gets home from work will mean a lot to her. Take her out to dinner from time to time or perhaps cook her a meal.

Some men mistake affection for spending time with her but doing so with their own happiness in mind and not hers. For example, instead of taking her out for a nice quiet dinner you take her to the pub for dinner where you know all your mates will be hanging out. Or perhaps instead of walking up behind her and wrapping your arms around her and kissing her neck, you wrap your arms around her to grab certain parts of her body without her permission. Although this may seem playful or sexy to you, it may not to her. Grabbing her in intimate parts of the body in a sleazy way or even when she's just not in the mood will make her feel degraded.

So when you are trying to become more affectionate to your girlfriend make sure that the affection is targeted at her and at making her happy. Just make her feel special and loved and you will soon see that spark return to your relationship.


 

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Get The Inside Secrets Of Women On Dating

After thousands of years men still cannot figure out what women want. Women will never come right out and tell you what she wants or needs but instead may give some hints or signals that you are expected to work out. In this article I am going to share with you the inside secrets of women on dating so you can finally figure out what women actually want.

Women can even be a little contradictory at times. For example a woman wants a man to protect her and stand up for her but at the same time she does not want a man that will smother her. By this she means that if someone were to challenge her she wants a man that would stand up for her and protect her. However, she doesn't want a man that is so protective that he won't let her out of his sight.

Some women can be quite moody, which I'm sure you already know. If a woman is in a bad mood she wants a man that can cheer her up and make her happy again. Don't just think that you should give her space if she's in a mood because she might actually want the opposite, she might want you to spend time with her to cheer her up.

Women like men that are affectionate, particularly in public. Little gestures like holding her hand when walking down the mall or giving her a hug and a kiss when you meet, these are little things that a woman likes a man to do. Women don't like men that are too embarrassed to do these sorts of things in public as it makes them feel that the man is too embarrassed to be with them, so show her some affection in public.

Something else that can keep a woman happy is to call her more often. You don't need to have a reason to call her, you can simply call to say 'I miss you', just so she knows that you are thinking about her. Or you can perhaps send her a text message telling her you love her or that you can't wait to see her, little gestures to let her know you care will go a long way.

Don't be afraid to tell a woman that you love her. Women are often the one's to say those three magic words in a relationship and men don't tend to say them as often, but it really does do wonders for the relationship if you tell her those three little words. Women want to know that they are loved, they don't want to assume it, they want to be told.

Another thing that women love is a man that will sit and watch a 'chick flick' with her. Sure you may find the movie totally boring, but I'm sure she finds some of your favorite movies boring too but will still watch them with you. It's good to do things that she enjoys now and again to let her know that you really do care about her and what she likes.

Women don't really want that much; they just want to be loved, be shown some affection and to know that you care about them. That is all that a man needs to know about women on dating.


 

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Do You Want To Be A Sweet Girlfriend And Keep Your Boyfriend

Your relationship seems to be a bit boring and stale lately so perhaps you are thinking that if you are more of a sweet girlfriend you can spice it up a little. Some relationships unfortunately just can't be saved, but others can. The point is that sometimes you may try hard to make it work and get no-where and you need to realize that perhaps the relationship just can't be saved. It also takes both parties in the relationship to work at fixing any problems; one of you can't do it on your own. If you are the only one trying to make things work then your boyfriend may just be using you as a door mat. If he really loves and appreciates you then he will put in some effort too.

If you feel that you are to blame for your relationship becoming stale because you haven't been as attentive to your boyfriend or you aren't being considerate of him, then yes you can make the changes needed to fix this problem. This is quite common in relationships, when you become more comfortable with one another you can begin to take each other for granted. If it is only you who is taking him for granted then you can change that, but if he is also taking you for granted then you need to talk about it and you both need to put in an effort to change.

There is no one answer to learning how to be a sweet girlfriend as every girl is different and every relationship is different. One thing you should do is to treat your boyfriend the way that you would want him to treat you. This is the case with any sort of relationship really and is common sense but quite often we forget this rule. If you want him to use manners when he speaks to you then you should use manners when you speak to him. If you want him to call and let you know if he is going to be late home then you should always call him and let him know if you are going to be late. Always treat him the way you want him to treat you.

Another point is to respect his wishes and his views. Everyone has their own views and their own wishes and just because you might not think something is important doesn't mean you should disrespect his view. Often you will agree on situations and sometimes you won't and it's alright to disagree but you should never be disrespectful of his opinion. For example, if he prefers that you call him to let him know you are going to be late, but you don't think that is necessary, you need to respect his opinion because he does care about it. It really isn't that hard to call to say you'll be late, so why not do it if you know it's important to him.

This doesn't mean that you have to do everything he wants and change your whole lifestyle and ideas to suit his; it just means that you need to be respectful of one another. All relationships will need to make some compromises and being respectful and willing to compromise is what makes a relationship work.

It isn't difficult to be a sweet girlfriend it is really all about being considerate and affectionate and have open communication. If you both love one another this shouldn't be too difficult, but no relationship is perfect. Be yourself, but be considerate of who he is too.


 

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