Asking someone to be your Valentine and dating should be fun, not stressful. There can be a lot of pressure when trying to ask someone out for the first time but the best thing you can really do is just relax and be yourself. As long as you focus on spending the day enjoying just being together and having fun, not much can go wrong .
One easy way to decrease the amount of stress you feel with your new Valentine and dating is to plan ahead. If you are sure she will say yes to your invitation, go ahead and make those reservations at the restaurant you wish to go to well in advance of the day in question. If they are booked, try some more until you find one that can accept your reservation. If you wait until the last minute you may find you can't get in anywhere.
If you are planning a quiet night in with a home cooked meal, wine and candlelight make sure to practice beforehand. Make the meal you choose once or twice beforehand so you can be sure to have everything ready on time. The more sure you are of yourself, the less stress you will feel that you can actually pull it off and you will be able to enjoy yourself more.
When you make your invitation, do it either in person or with a phone call. Do not ever de-personalize this by texting or sending an email because you are too nervous to do it any other way. She will most likely decline your invitation if you choose to text her or email her. Once she accepts your invitation it is acceptable to confirm things by either of these methods as long as you both agree to it.
There are a number of things you will need to keep in mind when you plan to make a romantic, home cooked meal.
First, ask her if she has any food allergies. This is important, you do not want to have her have an allergic reaction to something you make and end up in the emergency room.
Next, make sure you have all the ingredients on hand so you are not running out at the last minute to try to find something you forgot. This includes the table setting. A well set table should have; a nice table cloth and napkins, matching plates and silverware, stemware for the wine, a centerpiece, candles (and something to light them with) and candle holders.
Make sure you get some advice about what wine to serve with the meal you are planning and then chill the wine in advance. You can find this information online or you can go to your local liquor store and ask someone there to recommend something.
Also, if you know the type of music she likes then have it playing when she walks in the door. Otherwise, choose something soft and romantic to have playing in the background. If you have one, start a fire in the fireplace, as well.
Keep in mind that even though you plan everything out to the letter things can still go wrong. Reservations get lost and food gets burned. Having a plan B is a good idea. Even if plan B is just winging it. Who knows, your Valentine and dating could just turn out to be quite an adventure.
