It would be awesome if every relationship was an ever-loving relationship that was free of trouble. But this is the real world, and real-world problems have a way of happening to all of us. Sadly, many relationships end in a breakup. However, now that some time has passed, you find that you are telling yourself "I'm in love but my ex isn't."
This is not a fun situation to be in. You still have good feelings for your ex, and it hurts to be reminded that they are no longer in love with you. Even though that may be the case, you still hold out hope that the two of you will be together again. It's enough to make anybody confused, but don't worry, there are some proven methods to help you get through this difficult time.
The first thing you need to do is find out if your ex truly has no feelings for you anymore. A lot of times we will make assumptions about how other people feel, and those assumptions are often incorrect. For example, just because your ex isn't calling you doesn't mean that they don't care about you; it just means that they aren't calling you. Perhaps they have lost their feelings for you, perhaps they are afraid to talk to you, or perhaps they think you're the one who is not in love with them. Whatever the case may be, you need to find out for sure before you proceed.
If you find out that they still have romantic feelings for you, even if they are a faint remnant of what you once had, then you can move forward by trying to work things out. Be sure to take small steps. If you move too quickly, or if you are too bold, then you run the risk of pushing your ex further away. When trying to get back together, be sure that you are honest, polite, and respectful; this is the kind of attitude that will tip the balance in your favor.
Of course there is always a chance that your ex doesn't love you at all anymore. If this is the case, then you will have to start getting over them and living your life. Your friends will probably tell you to forget about your ex, but that's not realistic advice. Besides, why should you forget the good times you shared with someone who was special to you at the time? No, forgetting is not the answer. What you really need is a healthy perspective.
It can be oddly comforting to fantasize about how perfect things could be, if only your ex would love you again. However, daydreaming doesn't get things done. You need to take action and find out for sure how they feel. Once you do that, then you can take the next steps, depending on what you discover. It may not be easy, but having closure, for better or worse, is the only way that you can get a satisfactory response to "I'm in love but my ex isn't."
