Why Not Find Love As A Senior-Everyone Needs Someone

It can be scary at any time in your life to head out into the dating scene to try and find someone special. It can be even scarier to do this as a senior when you have been away from the dating scene for many years. Many seniors will find themselves alone in life following bereavement or divorce or perhaps they have just never met the right person during their life. It is not too late, even in your senior years, to find someone special to spend your life with. There are many other seniors in the same position that are looking to meet someone new and find love again.

Dating has changed quite a bit over the years and one popular method for meeting someone now is to use internet dating. If you own a computer and are connected to the internet then you can give this a go. There are many different dating websites including some that are specifically for seniors. If you join a seniors online dating website you can browse the site and perhaps find someone that shares similar interests to you.

When you set up your profile on an internet dating site you will list your hobbies and interests and this way you can then find other people that have similar interests. If you are looking for a long term relationship then you will want someone that you will share common interests with. For example, if you like to play lawn bowls then you might want to find a partner that is also interested in lawn bowls or if you like a certain type of music you may want a partner with similar taste in music. Times change over the years and it is nice to meet someone that grew up in the same generation and will share similar tastes.

With your profile on an internet dating site you can also upload a photo. You should be honest and upload a current photo. If you upload a photo that was taken 20 years ago then you will be giving people the wrong impression and when it comes time to meet the person face to face they will soon find out that you were dishonest with your photo. You will also include your likes and dislikes in your profile and the dating service will then match you with other people that have similar likes and dislikes.

Internet dating websites match people according to how compatible they are by what they enter on their profile. Physical looks are also important, but it is the shared hobbies and interests that can make a relationship last long term. If you are looking to meet someone that you would like a long term relationship with then an internet dating site could match you with someone that is compatible.

If you don't have a computer or are just not interested in meeting someone online then there are other options available. You can join a local club, not a dating club necessarily but any sort of club that might involve your hobbies or interests. You can join a bingo club, bridge club, golf club, bowls club or a craft club. There are many different clubs around and this is a great way to meet someone with the same interests.

Another option is to ask your family or friends if they know anyone that might be suited to you that are in a similar situation. You never know when there might be someone just waiting around the corner to meet you and begin a new journey in their life with you.

Although it can be an anxious time when you first re-enter the dating scene, there really is nothing to be worried about. These people that you are meeting are all people in a similar situation and also looking to find love again. Try to relax and just go out and enjoy yourself and you may just meet the person of your dreams.


 

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The Five Stages Of Relationships There Is No Way Around It

There are generally five stages of a relationship with the first being when you first meet. When you first meet someone and start dating, everything is new and exciting. Many years ago this stage was referred to as 'courting' but these days we just say we are dating or seeing someone.

During this first stage you can't seem to get enough of one another and will spend a lot of time together. This is great because this is all part of getting to know each other. You will be floating on cloud nine during this stage and because you feel so happy, everything around you seems much different. You will walk arm in arm or holding hands and will probably steal a kiss whenever you can. You don't really think of anything else except for your new love. This first stage can last anywhere from a couple of weeks to a few months.

The second stage of a relationship begins when you start to become more comfortable with one another. The newness begins to wear off a little as you begin to be comfortable and start to trust one another. The fun and excitements is still there and during this time you may become intimate with one another.

When the relationship becomes intimate then this adds a whole new excitement to the relationship as you get to know what each other likes and wants. If communication between the two of you is easy and natural then you should find it easy to talk about your sexual relationship. This is a time that is a lot of fun when you are figuring out what you like to do together and you may even decide to experiment with things you have never done before.

During the third stage of a relationship you become very comfortable with one another, you know each other very well and have developed respect and trust for one another. At this point in time you may decide to move in together. As much as you love each other, moving in together is a big change and you need to keep open the lines of communication to ensure a smooth transition.

When you decide to move in together you should discuss some ground rules first. There is no point moving in and then finding out that you both have completely different rules and expectations. You might want to discuss things like what roles you play, what chores each person is responsible for, and any other expectations you have. It is best to know this up front and then decide whether you want to live together.

The fourth stage of a relationship is planning your future together and getting married. You need to continue with the good communication skills as this stage does take some planning and planning weddings and futures can be stressful. Other than the wedding there are other important decisions to make like whether you want children, whether you want to buy a house together etc.

Stage five has two options and how you handle stage four may determine which path you will take toward stage five. The two paths of stage five are 'happily ever after' and 'divorce'. If you plan your future well and communicate well with one another then there is no reason why your stage five can't be happily ever after. Too many people these days end up with divorce as their stage five and quite often that could be avoided if they had better communication.


 

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Tips For Seniors Looking For Romance

If you are a senior looking for romance it can be very daunting. If you have found yourself alone in your senior years, there is no reason why you can't go out and meet someone new. You deserve to be happy just like anyone else so why not try to find someone special to share your life with. The hardest step for dating as a senior is making the decision to do it.

Here are some tips for seniors looking for romance.

1. You are much older now than when you first started dating in your youth so you will need to have an open mind. When you are a senior going into the dating scene you will most likely want to date someone in your own age group so don't expect a James Dean or a Farrah Fawcett look alike. Physical attractive is important as long as you are realistic. You will also want to date someone that has similar interests to you so that you might be compatible.

2. You probably won't find your soul mate on your first date; it might take a few dates with different people before you find the right person. Dating isn't always easy but when you do meet the right person it will be worth it. You will often meet someone special when you least expect it so always keep an open mind and be willing to go out and meet new people.

3. Don't rush into a relationship. When you start dating someone let the relationship progress at its own pace, don't try to rush it along, it is better to take things slowly. If you date a man that is not happy to take things slow then he probably isn't worth dating anyway. Just go out and enjoy yourself and let things progress naturally.

4. Never talk about your ex on your first date. If you constantly talk about your ex you will just scare your date off. Talking about your ex will give your date the impression that you are not over your ex. They don't want to date you just to listen about you talking about another man regardless of whether you talk about him in a nice way or a bad way.

5. Join a seniors club or an online dating website. There are a number of different ways to meet new people but you do need to get out there and join some of these clubs. Sitting at home waiting for Mr. Right to come and find you isn't going to work. Don't be apprehensive about joining a club, just go out and enjoy yourself. You deserve to get out there and have a bit of fun and you never know Mr. Right might be just around the corner.

6. Always be honest. If you join an online dating website, and they do have dating sites for seniors, always be honest in your profile and with the photo that you use. You don't want to put up a fake photo of someone younger as if you go on to meet someone in person they will know your photo was a lie. Even if you put your own photo but one when you were 20 is still being dishonest and a bit deceptive. The truth will always come out eventually so it is best just to be honest from the start.

The most important advice for re-entering the dating scene is just to go out and enjoy yourself. You only live once and you deserve to enjoy it. Go out and have some fun and you might just find the perfect person to share your life with.


 

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Gifts For New Boyfriend – Don’t Do Too Much Too Soon

It's natural, you've just met a great guy and things are going really well, so you're excited and want to let him know how happy you are. The problem is that, depending on the guy, too much too soon can turn some people off. Be careful that you don't allow your happiness to push you to go overboard. If you feel you just want to get gifts for new boyfriend, don't go too crazy.

Another thing about gifts is that you don't want to inadvertently put pressure on him to get gifts for you. If you start showering him with gifts right off the bat that may make him feel pressured to do the same, and that too can be a turnoff.

You also don't want him to get to the point where he expects you to get him things. Some people will take a little sign of affection and they will start to take it for granted.

The last thing you want to do is get so carried away at the start of your relationship that you actually scare him off. Take things slow.

If you absolutely must get him some sort of gift, keep it fairly non personal and inexpensive. That way it won't be as likely to intimidate or make him feel pressured.

Here are some ideas of gifts for new boyfriend that should land in the middle; allow him to see that things are going well, without making you look like you are coming on too strong:

1. Music is always a good gift. You can either buy him a CD or just get him a gift card so he can download some ringtones or music for his phone or MP3 player. Any type of gift lets someone know that you are thinking about them, but something like music isn't so ultra personal or romantic that it makes you seem like you're coming on too strong.

2. A ticket to a concert or sporting event he wanted to attend can be another great gift. An added benefit is that it is something you can do together. It's a two for one; you get to give your guy a great gift, and the two of you get to spend time together creating memories.

3. A ball cap from his favorite team, sports figure or video game. If your guy wears these types of hats, this can be a great gift. Again, not too personal or romantic but it lets him know that you pay attention and you are learning what he likes. That is very flattering and he will be touched by the gesture.

These three suggestions may not work well with your guy, but hopefully it's enough to get you started thinking. Letting someone know that you care can be done in many different ways. You can tell them in words, show them with actions or show them with gifts. In most cases, doing a combination of all three is effective, just don't do them all at once, that can be suffocating.

Now that you know where to start, have fun on your search for the best gifts for new boyfriend.


 

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Three Main Reasons Why Men Dump Women

No-one likes to get dumped and women in particular will take a big dive in self esteem if a man dumps her. Being dumped is never fun but it is even more devastating if you really love the guy. The end of a relationship will cause many emotions including pain, anger and hurt.

At one time it seemed that it was usually women that dumped the men but tables have turned a little and it seems more and more often that men are the ones doing the dumping. Some women will find themselves dumped and alone and have no idea what went wrong. Men are much more laid back than woman and may move on to another relationship without much thought, but women are much more emotional and can be devastated when a man moves on. To avoid finding yourself in this situation, here are the three main reasons why men dump women.

1. Lack of Communication

All relationships need good communication to be successful. A lack of communication can ultimately lead to the end of a relationship. Although women are generally better communicators than men, lack of communication is often one of the main reasons why men dump women.

2. Women Being Too Demanding

Women can be quite demanding and many men just can't handle that. If you are a controlling woman and feel that you need to control everything in your relationships, even your man, then don't be surprised if he will only put up with it for so long until he has had enough. Men are individuals and have their own opinions and they have every right to express those opinions and to have some control. If a man has to live by too many rules laid out by the woman they will begin to feel too much pressure and not enough freedom to do the things that they love to do. If you try to stop your man from doing the things he enjoys, like watching guy stuff on TV or going out with his mates, then he will soon begin to resent you for this. Many men will get fed up with having too much demand put on them and will end the relationship.

3. Women Smothering Men

Some women, particularly those with low self esteem, can be very clingy with their man and rely on him for everything. Men do like to feel needed and like the 'hero' role, but not when it is constant. If you become so clingy that you hang off your man constantly and can't do anything without his approval or help then it can put a lot of pressure on the man. A women needs to have some independence, just as a man does. She needs to be able to take some control and make some decisions on her own. He needs to be able to go out somewhere on her own without needing her man to be by her side constantly. Men do love attention and love being able to protect and care for their women, but it goes too far if the woman becomes obsessed with her smothering of him.

Of course it isn't always the men that dump women; it can be the other way around. There are also other reasons why relationships fail but these three reasons are quite high on the list of reasons why men dump women. If you find that you fall into one of these three categories then you will want to learn from your mistakes and not repeat them in any future relationships.


 

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Teenagers Dating- Rules Should Be Based On Maturity Of Your Teen

Any discussion about teenagers dating has got to take one very important fact into consideration: there is a wide range of ages that the teenagers can fall into and a lot of the rules will vary depending on the actual ages of the kids.

For example, a thirteen year old should absolutely have much stricter rules about dating than a eighteen year old would have. That's not to say that the older teenagers dating don't still need rules, it just means that they will likely be a little more lax.

Here are some good rules for you to consider establishing with your teenagers, preferably before they actually even start dating:

1. Let your teenagers know that you expect them to introduce you to whoever they are dating, on the first date. You want to know their full name, address phone numbers and, if possible, you would like to meet their parents too.

Now, more than likely your teen will complain about this and complain that you are "embarrassing" them. Well, too bad. You are their parent and it's your job to try to protect them.

2. Set specific guidelines about the age your kid has to be before they can go out on a date, you will also need to define just what a "date" is. For example, do you consider it a date when your teen goes out with a group of friends or just when they go out one on one? It's up to you, just let them know what your rules are.

3. Make sure your kids are clear on the amount of time and days they are allowed to go out. For example, will you allow them to go out on a school night? If not, how about to a school function? You set the rules, you decide but to save yourself some hassles down the road, make sure you spell it all out.

4. Make sure you tell your kids what their curfew will be as well as what the penalty will be if they are late. It's also a good idea to talk to your kids' date so they know what your expectations are too.

5. Make sure your kid has a cell phone with minutes on it. Now, I'm not saying you should get them a full time cell phone but you can get a pay as you go phone for around $30. If you choose, you can just let them have the phone when they go out on a date so they can call home if there is a problem of any kind.

6. Make sure your kids know how they should handle a situation if their date starts drinking or becoming abusive. Let your kids know that if there has been any drinking that they should call you for a ride home.

If you want them to call you in that situation, you had better explain to them that while you might be angry with them if that situation happens, you love them and you don't want them to get killed, so they should call you.

Teenagers dating can be a scary time for any parent, but if you use these guidelines you can help establish the ground rules and hopefully avert some fights in the process.


 

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Fun Things Do With Your Boyfriend- Break Your Patterns

It seems the longer you've been dating your boyfriend, the harder it can be to keep things exciting, fun and different. You've probably done the same old thing over and over again for some time and are looking for something different. If you are looking for fun things do with your boyfriend, I might be able to help.

The first thing I would encourage you to do is to stop and think about what you each like, what are your hobbies, interests and passions (except for each other, of course)? Then, try to find some sort of activity that will play into one or more of those interests.

For example, let's say your boyfriend is the artistic type. He loves to draw, paint, sketch, take pictures, etc. If that's the case why not pack a beautiful picnic basket and a blanket and "kidnap" him and take him to a beautiful spot outside?

Make sure you also grab his camera or paints. Then after your picnic you would just lay in the sun while he does his thing. Maybe he would even want to draw, paint or photograph you.

Let's say your guy is into sports. That's actually one of the easiest because you can just get him tickets to see his favorite team. If you have the money you could even get tickets for an out of town game and make a night or weekend of it.

Most cities, and even very small towns, have some sort of museums, parks and outdoor activities. If you want to find something different and fun things do with your boyfriend you can spend a little time exploring what is offered right in your own home town.

Many of these attractions are free or very low cost so even if you are on a limited budget you can still do it. What about just going on a bike ride, hike or roller blading?

In the winter the two of you could go down to your local ice rink, most will have skate rentals, and go skating. Afterward head back home and enjoy a quiet night by the fire with a nice meal.

If you enjoy looking at the stars why not plan a night time picnic? You could do the same thing I mentioned above except this time take some binoculars, or better yet, a telescope and pick out the various constellations. You could even check out a book about constellations at the library and take it with you.

It's not really that hard to think of fun and unique things to do with your boyfriend though, it may take a little time and the ability to think outside of the box.

The first step when trying to figure out fun things do with your boyfriend is to think about his interests and try to find activities that are in line with those interests. You may not always pick out activities that he likes, but he sure will appreciate all the time and effort you put into it.


 

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Sweet Things To Say To Your Boyfriend

We all realize the importance of letting the people in our lives know that they are loved. Sometimes, just saying "I love you" doesn't quite seem like enough. Sometimes you want some ideas of sweet things to say to your boyfriend.

Don't be fooled, guys like the "mushy" stuff too, they just won't admit it. As a matter of fact, most guys might even get into it more just because they aren't that used to getting it.

One of the most effective times for sweet things to say to your boyfriend is when he least expects it. It comes pretty naturally at the end of a conversation or at the end of the night, but what about when you're just getting out of the car to go to the grocery store? Or how about when you are standing in line at the bank?

I love you's from the person you love never get old but when it is kind of "sprung" on someone it can really be a special surprise.

You know your guy and you have to decide if he would like for you to say those words in front of his friends. Some guys would love for their friends to see how much you love them while other guys would be embarrassed. Figure out which guy you have.

Also, most guys won't like saying it back to you in front of their friends so if you do say it to him while others are around, say it on your way out the door or at some time where you don't expect a response from him. Remember, this is a time to let him know how you feel, not to put him on the spot or make him feel uncomfortable.

Another really nice thing to say, though it isn't directly to your boyfriend, is to tell his mother: "thank you for raising such a fine man". Something like that is almost guaranteed to melt your guys heart and make him feel like a million bucks.

If you sincerely tell your guy that he is wonderful, amazing, or awesome, that will almost be guaranteed to make his day and not only give him a nice little ego boost but also let him see just how special you think he is and how much he really does mean to you.

Also, actions can often speak louder than words. If you want to let your guy know how much he means to you than show him. There are many things you can do to show a man you love him than just dress up in lingerie.

Showing love can be as simple as seeing what needs to be done and do it. For example, if you and your guy are sitting around watching a movie and you notice that he is rubbing his head and that he has a headache, why not get him a few aspirin and a glass of water?

One word of warning now, you don't want to overdo this. First of all you should never allow yourself to be at someone else's beck and call. It's not a healthy relationship.

Another thing is that if you act like that all the time, he will either take it for granted and start to abuse it or he will get freaked out because you are acting kind of creepy. Moderation is the key. A little attention goes a long way.
These are the sweet things to say to your boyfriend.


 

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Can Interracial Dating Be Successful-All Relationships Face Challenges

Many years ago interracial dating was considered taboo and when couples of different races dated it could often tear families apart. These days interracial dating isn't as taboo as it once was and it certainly isn't as uncommon. However, that doesn't mean that these couples don't have challenges to face. Not all interracial couples will have challenges and it will depend on the races involved as some cultures will resist interracial couples more than other cultures. Although there may be challenges, even relationships within the same race can face challenges.

You will find that people in the senior generation are more resistant to interracial dating than the younger generation are. Most people in the senior age group would have been raised at a time when dating someone outside of your own race was not accepted. Today there are many interracial couples and our young people are raised at a time when it is accepted to date outside of your own race.

To make an interracial relationship work you will need to have some understanding of your partner's culture and traditions. If you have both been raised in completely different cultures then you may have very different beliefs that could clash so this is something that you will need to work around.

It is best to get an idea of what your partners beliefs are before the relationship becomes too serious. If you wait until the relationship has become serious and then find that you cannot live with this person's culture then you may be heartbroken if the relationship ends over your different beliefs. Many traditions and beliefs can be worked around if you are both willing to make compromises and sometimes you might just have to agree to disagree. All relationships will have some issues that can cause problems and if there is good communication then they can be worked around.

You also need to realize that no matter how open minded you are about dating someone from another race, your family and friends may not be as open minded. So you should prepare yourself for some resistance from your family and friends. If you find that you have family or friends that don't agree with your relationship, stay strong and united and prove to them that there is no reason why you cannot be together.

Many people just don't like change or don't like something they haven't come across before. If there has never been an interracial relationship within your family then this can be a big shock to them as it is something they don't have experience with. You can educate your family by talking to them honestly and openly about your relationship and your different cultures. Let them get to know your partner and in time they may become to like your partner to the stage where they won't even notice the different race.

Because interracial relationships can have their challenges it is good if you can have some family or friends that are supportive. Sometimes it can feel like it is the two of you against the rest of the world and sometimes you just need a friendly shoulder to lean on. Spend time with those family members who understand your feelings and your relationship and give you support.

Any relationship can have challenges and the same is true for interracial relationships. Although interracial dating can have some extra challenges, don't let that stop you from dating someone from another race. You never know, the love of your life might be someone from a different race and you don't want to miss out on that perfect person for fear of the challenges that interracial dating can bring.


 

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Rise Of Single Mom Dating-Not Always Because Of Divorce

What does the rise of single mom dating mean in today's society? Well, it probably means that single parents are feeling more comfortable getting out in the dating world, that's all. Single men and women may be more accepting of someone else's children when entering into a relationship. You probably could not stand in the middle of a crowd and throw a stone and not hit a single parent.

There are lots of reason why one would find themselves being a single parent, unplanned pregnancy, divorce, death of a parent. Moms are usually the ones left as the single parent, but single dads are becoming more numerous, too. This may be one of the reasons there is a rise of single mom dating. Single dads need love, too.

Statistics are that 4 out of 10 births are to unmarried women. This used to be quite the taboo in this, or any, society. But with society being able to get used to anything single parent births are more and more commonplace these days. What used to be taboo is now widely accepted.

Premarital sex is now widely accepted. Just take a look at the royal couple about to be married. They have been living together for years and have set a new standard in the royal court. I think they have decided that because they have lived together for so long they will just do away with the 'she has to be a virgin thing'.

Anytime you engage in unprotected sex the possibility arises that there may be an unplanned pregnancy as a result. Even if you say you don't like surprises. Surprise! If one of you is not ready to be a parent this pregnancy will result in one of you being a single parent.

Even if you do get married there is a 1 in 2 chance your marriage will end in divorce and therefore making one of you a single parent nonetheless. Raising a child as a single parent is not bed of roses. They have to eat and have clothes to wear so you have to work, then come home and do all that has to be done there, too.

Cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes, reading the bedtime stories, making sure they brush their teeth, it is a labor of love. They did not ask to be brought into this world and they deserve the best care possible.

Some women just choose to have a baby on their own. They either cannot find a suitable mate or are tired of looking but feel they have reached a point in their lives where they want to be a parent. So either through adoption or finding a donor and having artificial insemination done they can become single moms.

The rise of single mom dating is just due to the fact that there are so many out there now. That and the men available are more sensitive to women and more accepting of her having a child when they meet.


 

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