Ending A Relationship Before The New Year

If you are planning on Ending A Relationship before the New Year then you should be prepared for what all that entails. Ending a relationship is not something to be taken lightly, especially around the holidays. If you are planning on ending your relationship then here are some tips to help you do it.

1. Make sure you really want to end the relationship. A lot of times people will use the threat of breaking up as a means of attaining something, or even to save the relationship. You need to determine whether you are fully ready to part with your partner, or if you are just trying to save your relationship.

2. Plan a way out before even bringing up the subject. It is best to go in prepared so before you even mention a possible break up to your partner or your family, think of how you will go about making your leave,

3. Plan it out with a neutral third party that you can trust. Friends and family on both sides will have hidden agendas, intentional or otherwise. Try to seek some neutral advice, like from the internet, on what exactly you should do. Leaving a two month long relationship is much different then leaving a two, or twenty year relationship so you need to plan properly.

4. When you have everything planned out and are ready to go forward with Ending A Relationship before the New Year, then it is time to move on. This step is crucial, if you go through with this then that has to be that. You can not waver back and forth, you can not try to remain friends. The best thing you can do, for both yourself and your partner, is to just move on and never look back.

5. Cut off all contact with your, now former partner. This will be the make or break period. If you give in to temptation, communicate with them, you may be swayed to return and even if you are not, you are just toying with them. It is best to just ignore any and all contact with them. Obvious exceptions being if there are other things involved such as kids.

6. Never talk ill of your ex. You do not want to foster any negative emotions between you and your ex, regardless of how or why the relationship failed. If it was bad, then just do not say anything, if it had it's good points then mention those. Like the saying goes, if you do not have anything nice to say, do not say anything at all.

7. Take time to mourn the loss of your relationship. Even if you were the one who went ahead with Ending A Relationship before the New Year, it can still be painful. You may want to take time to work it out for yourself and allow yourself to come to terms that you have now parted with someone you loved.

8. Get back on the horse. Take time to grieve, and then take time to enjoy being single. But eventually you will want to get back out there and try again, very few people want to be alone forever.


 

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Hints For The Gift You Want – Having A Hard Time Asking For What You Want?

It's that time of year again…Christmas. You know what you want but are having a hard time asking for it. So, what do you do? You need to find ways to drop hints for the gift you want. This is not as hard as it sounds. Read on to get a few ideas on how to do it.

Dropping hints for the gift you want can be as simple as leaving little notes around the house that are easy for others to find. They will pick them up and then can put them in their pockets or wallet to remind them of the thing you want when they go shopping.

If you are too shy to come right out and ask for the gift you want then leaving little notes around is the best way to get someone else's attention. You could even be a little more sneaky and put these little notes in the car and in their briefcase, stuck to the bathroom mirror or in their lunch box, any where they are sure to find them.

Another good way to drop a hint is to act all excited when you see a commercial for the thing you want. Sing it's praises and mention to whomever is listening what you could do if you had one of those items.

When you are out shopping, go look at this thing you want. Take whomever you are with to see it as well. Show them all the features it has and all the different colors it comes in, if it has to be a certain size then tell them at that time what size you take. Try to remember anything you can about it so when they go shopping without you they can remember to get just exactly what you want.

Get a catalog from the store that stocks what it is that you want and circle the gift and it's description and leave the catalog out in plain sight. I do not know anyone who will not look at a catalog when one is available. We all want stuff and sometimes looking in a catalog will give us other ideas of other things we may not be able to live without.

At some point earlier in the year start a wishlist and keep it tacked to the refrigerator door. When you thinks of things you want, add them to the list. If it remains on the refrigerator door then it is out it plain sight and anyone who cares to look can and probably will especially when the holidays get closer.

In this electronic age you could be a little less subtle and send an email or text about the gift you want as well.

Dropping hints for the gift you want can be quite creative if you really put your mind to it. Come up with unique ways to tell the ones you love what it is you really want for Christmas, and if all else fails, pretend they are Santa Claus and whisper it to them in their ear.


 

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Tips for Women on Flirting Through Body Language

Some people might think that all women know everything there is to know about flirting. After all, it's true that women send out five times as much sexual information in the form of body language as men do. However, a woman may not be getting the responses she is hoping for. It could mean that she needs a fine tuning on her body language skills.

For example, when you enter a bar or a party, do you just plop down and expect men to automatically come to you? You need to give them a little incentive. One important factor is to emphasize the fact that you are female.

You can do this right away by arranging your purse and other feminine articles in front of you. You can do a little preening. Toss your hair, adjust your clothing, or use any other body language you can think of to get your point across. Of course, you should do all this in very casual way.

There are several other ways to flirt using your body language. One is to roll your hips as you walk. If done subtly, men will find this attractive. A purely feminine pose is to sit with your legs entwined. Men find this intriguing, mainly because most of them can't do it.

Once you see a man you are interested in, focus in on him. Try to make eye contact. If it happens, then hold the gaze a little longer than is normal in other circumstances. Then, you should break the contact and look down.

This will appeal to the man's primal instincts. He will feel that you are showing, by your body language, a kind of submission that allows him to approach. At this point, you should look back up to encourage him to come on. As he approaches, keep your eyes only on him. If they stray, he will feel unconfident or even rejected by your body language.

Most men are wracked with anxiety over their opening line. Much has been made of finding the right one. Books have been written on the subject. If this is awkward, try to use your body language to put him at ease. Smile and show interest by tilting your head. Get past this obligatory ritual and get on to the good stuff.

When you are speaking to him, watch for signs of attraction or of disinterest. If he sits at an angle to you, he is disinterested. It's either time to try another tactic or to stop wasting energy on him.

On the other hand, he will use his body language to display his fascination with you. The more he likes you, the more his pupils will dilate. If he faces directly towards you and seems to follow your body language lead, it signifies attraction.

While you are talking to the man, you can continue your use of body language to flirt with him more. One way is to do suggestive movements. You can stroke something round, such as a drink glass. You can lick your lips. All these examples of body language occur best after the flirting has gone on for awhile.

If the flirting goes as far as a kiss, it will be up to you to show by your body language that you are ready for it. You simply need to relax your face and body. Move close to him and look into his eyes. If your kiss is a good one, you can use more body language to take it from there.


 

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Contemplating New Relationship For Upcoming New Year

The new years is a time of resolutions, a time when you decide to enact the changes you have been wanting to make. Everyone has some kind of resolution, some more common than others. But you do not need a common resolution like losing weight or quitting smoking, you can settle for more heart related resolutions, and I do not mean the biological heart.

The new years is a time of resolutions, but it is also a time of new beginnings, a time when you can start a new relationship that you have been wanting. If you are Contemplating New Relationship for Upcoming New Year then there are some things you should try to help you on the road to finding love.

1. Make people aware that you are looking. Even if you are looking for someone to start a relationship with, if nobody knows you are looking then you will not find anyone. Let those around you know that you are looking so that they can point you to possible matches.

2. Know what exactly you are looking for. When looking for a partner it is important to know what you actually want out of that person. What kind of personality do you want them to have? What do you want them to look like? If you are Contemplating New Relationship for Upcoming New Year it is important to know these kinds of things instead of just blindly stumbling forward.

3. Make yourself attractive. This is not limited to just your physical appearance, but you as a whole. Even if you are a good looking person, if you have a rotten attitude it will be difficult to find yourself somebody you can share your life with. So you need to fix yourself up both physically and mentally before you set off to find that perfect someone.

4. Enjoy the solo life. This seems counter productive if you are trying to find a partner, but in reality it makes perfect sense. People are attracted to strong, confident, independent individuals. Enjoying life on your own shows that you can take care of yourself and are not some clingy person desperate for attention. It is also a good way of meeting like-minded people who share your interests which is always a good thing.

5. Know what to ask. Eventually you are probably going to see someone that catches your eye and this is when you can make or break it. You can not wait for them to come to you, so you need to know how to approach them. Speaking with them casually, as you would if you were trying to make a normal friend, is best. Ask them open-ended questions about themselves, learn about them and allow them to learn about you. You can build your relationship from there.

If you are Contemplating New Relationship for Upcoming New Year then these suggestions should help you. Just be warned that the holiday season is a tumultuous time and it can be difficult to find a partner in that season, just make sure never to give up.


 

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Can Handwriting Tell You About The Person You Are Dating?

Analyzing the way someone writes is called graphology. You can learn a lot about a person from their handwriting. It can tell different things about their personality and character. Handwriting can tell you something about the person you are dating or in a relationship that you dont know.

Handwriting analysis is the study of the forms of the letters and symbols you make when you are writing in cursive. We are all taught how to make the letters and write in cursive in school but penmanship is rarely ever taught anymore and this has led to very relaxed styles of writing and everyone having their own way of doing things.

It used to be that everyone was taught the same style of penmanship and then came out of school all writing the same way in the same style. Did you know that in some circles Abraham Lincoln's penmanship would have been thought of as uneducated? Because he used a more relaxed style it was not considered proper penmanship.

Through the years secretaries had to know a style called "fair hand" before they were hired so they could write letters that were legible. In the 1700-1800"s this was the way companies did business and the correspondence had to be as legible as possible so "fair hand" was what someone who wanted to be a secretary had to know.

Now, there are three different types of graphology used to study samples of penmanship:

1. Integrative graphology involves discovering certain personality traits by how they write. For instance, say you enrolled in a college to further your education. They may look at your writing samples to see what kind of student you will be.

2. Symbolic graphology involves looking at writing samples of someone after they die and looking for certain aspects of their writing that may give some insight to their life. This is usually used in forensics and may be used as evidence in court.

3. Holistic graphology is the rarely used study of spacing and legibility. Apparently you can tell a lot about someone just by how closely they space the letters and how well you can read what they write.

Common identifiers in writing are the slant used by the writer, angling the line when you write, and the words you use in a sentence. These are all "tells" to someone who knows what to look for.

If you write with a backward slant you could be suffering from emotional distress, but if you write with a forward slant you are happy and want people to know it.

If you angle the sentence you are writing up off the line on the paper you are probably in a good mood. If you stay exactly on the line you are probably a perfectionist and have to have things exact and if you angle downward under the line you are most like in need of some sleep because you are tired.

How you cross your t's and dot your i's can say a lot about how you feel about yourself as well. A low cross of the t and dot of the i means you have some self-esteem issues that should probably be addressed and a high cross or dot means you feel good about yourself.

Handwriting analysis can be very useful when used correctly like in forensics. Using it to catch a criminal is just another weapon in the arsenal for investigators. Using this type of analysis to determine if someone would be good for your company may or may not be acceptable.
In a relationship it could never hurt to have the insight.


 

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First Time Date To A Christmas Party

If you have just met someone that you think you would like to ask out for a date but do not know what to do or where to go it could be best to take your first time date to a Christmas party. This would be ideal during the holiday season but if it is not the holiday time of year then there are so many other things you can do otherwise.

Taking your first time date to a Christmas party will do a number of things for you. First, it will finally show all of your friends that you can actually get a date and it will start to build your confidence with the opposite sex, or same sex, whichever the case may be.

If it is not the time of year for the holidays and New Year celebrations then your options are completely open as to how you treat your new love to fun and excitement on your first date.

To make things enjoyable, especially if you do not know how to go about planning a date, ask your prospect what she likes to do for fun and then plan your time together around her answer.

However, if you are confident about setting up the fun you both will have, the the sky is the limit.

You could start out like most people do and go to dinner then see a movie. If money is a little tight then stick to the movie and then go for coffee and pie afterward. The movie will give you a beginning topic of conversation so there will be no awkward silences to try to get through. Remember to not get too personal with the questions until this date goes well and there will be more in the future.

If the weather is warm, plan to take her to the zoo. Everyone loves to look at the animals and have a good time. You could pack a lunch or buy lunch from the cafeteria at the zoo and have a nice leisurely picnic. Try to find a semi-secluded place where you can eat and talk without being disturbed by others.

Is there a lake nearby? You could go swimming or sunbathing and maybe rent a boat to go cruising out on the lake. If she likes to fish you could bring along a couple of your rods and reels and try to catch something, assuming it is the season for fishing and you have a license. She will need one, too, of course, so spring for one for her.

There is lots to do during the Christmas season as well. Take her on a tour of the city at night to see all of the Christmas lights before you take your first time date to a Christmas party and then go back to your place and bake some cookies or make some candy. Get your mother's recipes for her holiday baking or candy making and pick one or two and have some fun. Let her take some home so she can have something to remember the date with until the next one.


 

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Consider Everything In Saving Your Relationship

Being in a relationship is indeed a wonderful experience. There are times when you can't ask for anything more because of the overflowing happiness that you are feeling deep within you. But knowing that your relationship is in trouble and could possibly reach the end of the line, could be shocking and devastating news to you.

It will more than likely make you sad, feel isolated, or even cause you to act irrational. Thus, you have to act now and try to save your love for your significant other as well as your priceless relationship. After all, there are numerous resources available to help you in this quest. If you're interested in saving a relationship these tips may be a good starting point:

Identify The Relationship Problem.

Identifying the root cause of a possible relationship failure is the very first step to save a relationship. It is undeniable that any relationship probably has at least a few problems. Some of these problems can make or break your relationship. Even if you don't have a large deal breaking problem, small problems can add up to make your significant other break up with you. Hence, it is really important for you to identify the problems present in your relationship in order to save your relationship and your love for your significant other.

Discuss The Problem With Your Significant Other.

Love is always between two people. Thus, you have to discuss all things with your significant other once you have finished identifying the problems which are present in your relationship. In this way, you can both take the appropriate actions to save your love for each other. This will be especially important to you if you've been in your relationship for a decent amount of time.

Always Make Sure That Love Is Present.

Love is the glue that bonds two individuals into a good relationship. Hence, you have to make sure that love is always present in your relationship to avoid any possible break ups. After all, love is the most powerful thing. Saving a relationship is possible, as long as there is still a glimmer of love within your significant other.

Indeed, saving a relationship is really possible. Just keep the above tips in mind. Also, you must realize that you can't force the other person into staying with you. Keeping your emotions in check and keeping your cool are also very important parts to this complex equation.


 

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Finding Love On The Holidays – Be Out And Around People

If you are looking for ways to go about finding love on the holidays so you will not be alone on Christmas, do not panic or be depressed. There are so many things you can do. First and foremost just go out and be around people.

Take the time to go volunteer at the local soup kitchen and serve up some food for the people who have no one else at any time of the year let alone Christmas. You will be finding love on the holidays if you help out your fellow man. Making sure that someone has a hot meal in their tummy and a nice, warm place to sleep for at least one night will make your problems seem less important.

If you can't do that then you can put yourself out there other ways. Attend your company's Christmas party, you might just meet the new guy from down in accounting. Enjoy the season for what it is. Buy a tree and decorations, Set it up in a window of your home so you can see it when you drive up. Holiday lights are bright and colorful and get you in the spirit of the holiday.

Plan a holiday party of your own. Invite your guests to bring a friend. Who knows, maybe one of your married friends has someone they would like you to meet. Plan your party early enough in the season that your guests have time to plan to come to your party. It is a busy time of year for everyone and you want your party to be a success.

Plan to make food for the party or have it catered. Decorate your house for the season and have Christmas music playing when your guests arrive. Even if you are not much of a cook you could probably manage appetizers and finger foods for 20 people. The more you do it the better you will get. Or, just ask your guests to each bring a dish to pass.

Go walk outside and look at all the lights others have put up. The neighborhood is brightly lit. If you live in a place where you get snow, go out on a night when it is snowing and feel how the air feels and take in all the smells and sounds of the season. Take your skates down to the local ice rink and do some ice skating You might just meet the man of your dreams out on the ice.

Maybe you will be lucky and find a group of caroler's and you can join in singing your favorite Christmas carols. Warm up by stopping by the coffee shop and having some hot cocoa with some marshmallows or whipped cream on top. You never know where you might meet someone but getting yourself out there is the only way to do that.

When you wake up on Christmas day, call home and talk to everyone who made it home for Christmas. If you have planned your time well you might just be able to tell them you were successful at finding love on the holidays.


 

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Jealousy During The Holidays – Prepare Yourself If You Date A Flirt

If you are dating someone who is prone to being a flirt, than the holidays, and all the parties, can add another element of stress and tension to not only the season, but your relationship as well. With some simple techniques you can learn to deal with jealousy during the holidays in a more constructive manner.

If your relationship is one of a lot of jealousy in general, you may want to ask yourself if it is a healthy relationship. When one, or both, partners get jealous for no reason, there is a problem. They have low self esteem or they have possibly been cheated on in the past and have never really learned to trust again.

Whatever the case, it will make all your relationships more difficult. But, when it comes to jealousy during the holidays the expectation of "perfection" can really seem to magnify your existing problems.

Of course, the choice of whether you feed the jealousy or ignore it is really up to you, but maybe these tips can help:

1. If you are the one who is the flirt, grow up and knock it off. A little bit of flirting every now and then is ok. But, if you go so far as to make your partner feel bad and insecure than you are abusive… period. And, your partner needs to figure out why they allow you to treat them that way.

If the roles are reversed and it's your partner who is the one that seems to delight in flirting and hurting your feelings and making you feel insecure, than there really isn't much you can do about it. Sure, you can talk to them, but my guess is that you've already tried that and it always falls on deaf ears.

And it falls on deaf ears because your partner doesn't care about you and feels better about them self by making you feel worse about yourself. The fact is that they are insecure and the only way they feel good is to see that you are jealous – not the healthiest type of relationship.

2. If you just can't stand the flirting, and talking with our partner doesn't have any effect, and you don't want to end the relationship during the holidays, then the next (and only other option) you have is to just try to avoid any situations where your partner will flirt.

Avoid going to a lot of parties or going out very often. It will make your life a little easier by avoiding the problem in the first place.

No one wants to deal with relationship issues at all, let alone during the holiday season, but if you are involved with someone who gets off on flirting with others and making you jealous, you really have no choice but to deal with it… one way or another.

Jealousy during the holidays can be avoided and the method for dealing with it will vary depending on how you want to handle it. Just remember, that you don't need to let the immaturity of a childish partner ruin your fun this holiday season.


 

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Expectations On Christmas For Your Partner

It's easy to get in "It's A Wonderful Life" mode during the holiday season. It's easy to start expecting things in our life to actually be better than they really are. We can all fall into this trap, but it is a trap so you don't want to let your expectations on Christmas for your partner to get out of hand and actually makes things worse.

If you have unrealistic expectations on Christmas for your partner you are just guaranteeing that you will be disappointed and you will probably make yourself and your partner miserable.

Instead of forcing it and trying to make your relationship what you want it to be, why not take this time to figure out what your relationship is? If your partner isn't the type of person who likes to dress up or go to a lot of parties, why do you dream of doing just that?

They will resent you and you will end up being disappointed. If your partner isn't the romantic type and they don't do things spontaneously, why would you expect some grand romantic spontaneous gesture at this time of year? Again, you are just setting yourself up for disappointment.

Instead, don't expect your relationship to change just because it is the holiday season. I'm sorry to tell you this but if you want things different and you don't want disappointments during the holiday than don't set yourself up for disappointment by expecting your partner to suddenly turn into someone different than who they really are.

Another thing that is easy to do, and many of us are guilty of it, is that we have unrealistic expectations about our holiday season in general, not just in relation to your partner. We expect everything to be romantic and perfect, and that is just not realistic and we are only setting ourselves up for disappointment.

You have to remind yourself that things don't need to be perfect to be great. Just roll with everything that happens and keep your sense of humor. You can have a fantastic holiday season, even though it won't be perfect, it can still be perfect for you and your partner.

Why not plan activities that you both enjoy? Even if they aren't "holiday" events, why not just try to do things and go places where you will both have fun and have fun together?

There are no "holiday police", Martha Stewart isn't going to come knocking on your door if you choose not to decorate for Christmas or if you prefer to have a pizza for Christmas dinner rather than a ham.

Do what the two of you will find enjoyable and don't force yourselves to do what you are "supposed" to do but rather what each of you likes to do. That will make for a much more enjoyable holiday season. There is no right or wrong, only what is right for you two.

So, if you don't want to deal with unrealistic expectations on Christmas for your partner than don't. Just keep yourself grounded and don't expect either of you to change for a few weeks out of the year.


 

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