Why do relationships need to be so difficult? Wouldn't it be great if a man and woman could get along, with each perfectly fulfilling the needs of the other? Well, it may be nice if that would happen, but that's not the way it works in the real world. For example, as a guy you probably want to know how to be affectionate with your girlfriend.
Okay, we will be talking in generalities, but there are always exceptions. Boys are often taught to suppress certain feelings, and those lessons can be taught directly or indirectly. Either way, it can be very tough for men to show affection. On the other hand, girls are taught to express their feelings, to be kind, and to show–for lack of a better word–weakness.
The problem arises when she wants affection, the very thing she is so natural t showing to others, but you don't have a clue about how to be affectionate with your girlfriend. However, you know that you love her, and you are willing to show her that you care. The good news is that there are things that you can do.
More than anything else, you need to learn how to communicate with each other. Again, this can be difficult because men and women tend to be raised so differently, but it is vital to getting along. Once you are able to talk to each other effectively, then you will start to get an idea of the things that your girlfriend would like you to do to show her affection. If you feel the two of you are already good at talking to one another, then you can simply ask her what you can do to show you care.
Even though most women are good at expressing their feelings, not all of them like to be shown affection in the same way. That means you need to figure out what your girlfriend will respond to in the best way. For example, some women are content to hear terms of endearment on a regular basis. To them, just being told you care is enough to keep them satisfied. On the other hand, some women respond to touch, while others prefer to have physical reminders (such as gifts) of your affection.
Here's the really tricky part–you have to get it right! That means if you try giving your girlfriend jewelry to show you care, but she prefers touch, then you could actually end up offending her because she may feel as though you are trying to buy her affection. So, while you're trying to do your best, you could actually end up making things worse.
The question of how to be affectionate with your girlfriend isn't always the easiest one to answer. If you care for the special woman in your life, then take some time to find out what she needs in the way of affection. You can consider it a worthwhile investment in a happy and content future for both of you.
