{"id":360,"date":"2013-03-26T06:34:57","date_gmt":"2013-03-26T10:34:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/flirtingwithfitness.com\/flirting-dating\/relationships\/you-deserve-an-apology-a-true-apology\/"},"modified":"2013-03-26T06:34:57","modified_gmt":"2013-03-26T10:34:57","slug":"you-deserve-an-apology-a-true-apology","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/flirtingwithfitness.com\/flirting-dating\/relationships\/you-deserve-an-apology-a-true-apology\/","title":{"rendered":"You Deserve An Apology-A True Apology"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"float:left;margin-right:10px;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" height=\"69\" width=\"53\" src=\"http:\/\/widgets.fbshare.me\/files\/fbshare.php?url=https:\/\/flirtingwithfitness.com\/flirting-dating\/relationships\/you-deserve-an-apology-a-true-apology\/&title=You Deserve An Apology-A True Apology\n&size=large\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" allowtransparency=\"true\"><\/iframe><\/div><div style=\"float: right; margin-left: 10px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/share\" class=\"twitter-share-button\" data-via=\"FlirtingFitness\" data-count=\"vertical\" data-url=\"https:\/\/flirtingwithfitness.com\/flirting-dating\/relationships\/you-deserve-an-apology-a-true-apology\/\">Tweet<\/a><\/div>\n<p>\nYou know, there are times when you deserve an apology from someone, but you may want to be careful what you wish for. <\/p>\n<p>I just finished reading a very well written article about the various ways people use apologies. <\/p>\n<p>Yes, I said &#34;use&#34;. The author made some very intuitive comments about the way we phrase our apologies and the end result we expect from the so called apologies. <\/p>\n<p>So, you deserve an apology, but you should pay attention to what the apology actually says&#8230; it can be quite an eye opener. <\/p>\n<p>You have probably experienced many of these so called apologies yourself over the years&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>The apology that actually blames you for the situation in the first place. Something along the lines of &#34;Honey, I know I shouldn&#39;t have said those things but you made me so mad&#34;<\/p>\n<p>How many times have you heard a version of that &#34;apology&#34; from your significant other during the course of your relationship?<\/p>\n<p>If you are like most of us the answer would probably be &#34;more than I can count&#34;.<\/p>\n<p>Or, almost as good, the apology that is nothing more than an excuse wrapped in an apology: &#34;I know I promised you I would stop by the grocery store on my way home but I had one heckuva day&#34;.<\/p>\n<p>Again, no where is there any type of apology in there. I&#39;m pretty sure that not only have most of us gotten that type of &#34;apology&#34; most of us have probably used that type of apology too!  I&#39;m sorry. <\/p>\n<p>And, one of my personal favorites, the &#34;non-apology&#34;, where you just know that they aren&#39;t really sorry at all.  You know the kind, someone says &#34;I&#39;m sorry for doing that&#8230;.but&#8230;&#34;<\/p>\n<p>Like, &#34;I&#39;m sorry I didn&#39;t get your Valentines day gift to you on time, but I&#39;ve been busy&#34;<\/p>\n<p>You know, they would have had you at &#34;I&#39;m sorry&#34;. Too bad many of us just don&#39;t know when to stop!<\/p>\n<p>I hope that, for the most part, you have people in your life who are willing to offer you sincere apologies when you deserve one. <\/p>\n<p>Nothing is worse than having someone do something to hurt you and they don&#39;t even acknowledge the damage they have done. <\/p>\n<p>If you are in a relationship with an apology challenged person, perhaps you can re-train them. <\/p>\n<p>Maybe you can show them that one of the biggest signs of respect they can give someone is to offer a sincere apology when they mess up. <\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#39;t matter if it is a big offense or a relatively minor one, if they have done something or said something they should not have, and caused another person pain or discomfort they need to apologize.<\/p>\n<p>After a little practice they may just learn what many of us have already learned; while apologizing and admitting you were wrong may not be easy, it can feel really good when you do and get the guilt off your chest. <\/p>\n<p>It can also feel really good when the person you apologized to has offered you their forgiveness. <\/p>\n<p>You deserve an apology, and hopefully you will get it in a sincere fashion. 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